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[quote=Indigo][quote=SouthernFell]Thank you, I definitely needed to hear that. I have read two of Lainie's books but not BU2MU, I'll definitely check it out. No I don't think I acted desperate, I told him how shitty his behavior was and then said that we could not be friends. I do believe that I really want him back he does make me happy and I've never had a relationship like the one we had. I miss that. Oddly enough he sent me a video and then a couple photos yesterday, I did not respond to the messages. I'm not sure why he is trying to contact me? The whole thing is really confusing to me..   [/quote]       That is good.  I would advise that you don't contact him back until you read up on Lanie's advice.  I am not suggesting that you go into no contact with him, just that if you decide to do NC, you do it for the right reasons and apply it correctly so that it is effective in getting him back.  I think it is fine to just ignore him for a while.   Who knows what his motives are in sending you pix, don't concern yourself about that right now.  When you deal with him again, he needs to know that you will NOT accept his conduct and that the consequence thereof is that he WON'T have you.        [/quote]