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[quote=StrawberryKitten]I haven't read any replies yet, so forgive me if I say what has possibly been said already. I feel compelled to reply to this. PLEASE think this over very carefully. This man shows red flags of being an abuser. I can say this with experience because I still am not fully rid of mine yet. We are split up, but I still worry. Abusers come on strong and fast. They are oh so in love with you and they want to marry you like, yesterday. Stop and ask yourself why ? Yes, you are a lovely, beautiful woman, I'm sure ! But he doesn't know you all like that, you should really want to know someone well before that level of commitment. They seem to center their life around you and at first we find that flattering. We find it flattering when they get jealous too. Trust me...that will wear off and it will not be so cute. When he scares your friends away and gets mad at you if you want to see your family, you will not be flattered. His jealousy will make your life a living hell, I promise. Mine got so jealous over a FEMALE friend of mine ( and no, neither of us swing that way..not that there is anything wrong with that, just pointing out how unreasonable he was ) that he strangled me until I was unconscious. Imagine having theman that you thought loved you, squeezing the breath out of you, and being sure that you would never wake up as you started to feel lightheaded. He strangled me often, but that was the worst. I quit a job that I loved because he kept walking there, waiting for me to clock out, and it scared people because he would crouch beside my car. These are just a few examples of what life could be like for you if you marry this man or even continue with him. You never met yet ? Awesome, you have a prime opportunity here to get away. Tell him you moved away to another state and block him from everything, change your number. It sounds drastic but this man is bad news, from what you said. You don't have to take my advice, obviously, but I truly hope, deep in my soul, that you will. You deserve a gentle, kind man who loves you in the way that you deserve to be loved. Please do some reading up on red flags of abusive relationships, okay ? Please at least do that...I'm literally begging you to. No one deserves to be put through one.[/quote]