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[quote=Pyro]Ah-yah-yeeh... okay, I must admit that I haven't read all of the comments, but I can see things are getting a bit heated. In answer to the original question, I'm going to offer my opinion, as well as my understanding on this topic (I'm not claiming to be an expert, mind). I myself, am the product of an affair, so questions about married men always hit home with me. Had my dad been a faithful man to his wife, both my sister and myself would not exist. Is my mom's at fault? I don't believe so; he lied to her. By the time she found out the truth, she was in too deep. Can a man be 'stolen'? In my opinion... no. He had to have been unhappy in the first place. Happy men rarely cheat – unless they're naturally cheating bastards, in which case these men will ALWAYS cheat no matter what – even with a queen at home. I had a male friend once who was in a relationship. Nothing real ever happened between us, but he 'dipped his toe', so to speak (not literally!). He's NOT a total prick, but I knew things were getting heated. We no longer speak, but yeah – he admitted to being unhappy in his relationship. The point is, he was behaving on the 'naughty' side because HE was unhappy – though some might argue that I flirted back. I DID feel for his girlfriend, yes, which is why it was stopped before anything happened. I've got a lot more stories I can add to this, but personally, in my opinion, if he's happy and shown no advances, don't go there. If something's happened, be mindful that he probably does this to every woman – and would do the same to you. As is the case with my friend, sometimes things just run their course. BUT, if he's decent, he'll recognise that, become single and quietly pursue you away from his wife. If he's a wanker with narcissistic traits, he'll splash it all over the place (I've experienced this). It all depends on the circumstances. Personally, I don't believe in the sanctity of marriage, but that's largely because I'm biased owing to how I came into the world. I have a theory on the law of cause and effect, but it's nearly midnight and I'm knackered... so I'll be back! Oh, I forgot to add... if he's never made advances, for example... could he be a fantasy? Like in 'While You Were Sleeping' (great film). What's she like? Is he an ex? So many questions and things to consider.[/quote]