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[quote=duvetwitch][quote=unicornsnrainbows][quote=duvetwitch]Hi Just to let you all know that Lanie is correct. I am a real person, no hoax. I am not posting anywhere else. I'm not selling anything or proposing to write my own book! I would just add to read Lanie's stuff and follow the technique. I can say it works as I write this from my boyfriend's bed while he makes food! (And we are still sticking to no sex, still his idea but I know it would be something I would implement as I am following Lanie's instructions as laid out). Oh, and yesterday he said on Valentine's Day he was fighting himself not to contact me, the urge was very strong, which must be about a day or two after I started the PW. I'm going to lay off BWD for a while as we have agreed to no sex and it would make that too difficult to maintain. It's also part of his therapy programme so I will respect that process[/quote] Ha--I figured you were real...but I guess you never know.  :)  So happy that things are going well so far.  I'm curious--what did you do in your PW sessions?  Were there any things you had him say to you, that he's now said and/or done in physical reality?[/quote] So to answer this. It's not so much the specifics of what he said, but the general tone of it all. During PW he said: I miss you (said) I love you (said) Marry me. (will be said soon) There were other things in the mix at different times. For example, early on I wanted him to feel a lot better in himself, so he said things like: 'I'm feeling much better, I've moved on a lot in myself'. (he has not really said this - but it is VERY clear in his actions, how he is and what he has been doing for himself in our time apart). Then I read some stuff from some of the girls on this forum and decided him feeling better should not be my focus, so I mainly stopped that. I did also have him say he had withdrawn from a friendship with a female friend who I had not met and I was NEVER comfortable with their relationship (although it was never sexual). So I had him say: 'I cannot even see X' Over the weekend we spoke about X and he has not seen her for weeks and weeks, and they have not been in touch at all.  They used to be in touch pretty much every day by text/whatsapp or email.  He said he is totally fed up with her, she is flaky and he cannot be bothered with her anymore........ In PW he said 'I cannot think of anyone else but you'. He was not able to even date another woman, not a single date. In PW I told him I was going to date other men and he would lose me if he didn't pull his finger out. He told me over the weekend that he was terrified to contact me because he was convinced that I was seeing someone else. (I only went on a handful of first dates - they were all nice guys but not for me!!) He also said he had been looking for any excuse to contact me, but was fighting himself about it. But as I said it is more the overall tone. It was the feeling more than the words.  I think you have to really feel the PW. Sometimes he was saying things without me saying them.  [/quote]