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[quote=Indigo][quote=Layla]  I haven't read that book! I'm not using anyone's method.. When I text him and he doesn't reply, I feel upset and feel my power is being taken away. It's not exactly "NC" I guess-- I think I should text him when I want to and really have something to say and not text just to get a response out of him. I will change his "cold" behavior with PW/BWD. Am I doing it right?? Thank you, will keep doing it!    [/quote]       I can't say if you're doing it right because you will know what works for you, but obviously you don't want to feel upset and powerless when he doesn't respond.  The concept of doing NC as I understand it is that you don't set yourself up for rejection by making contact.  You don't want to give him the impression that he's all you think about or have going on.  You keep him guessing and wondering what you're up to and not the other way around. All of that in conjunction with the meditations which you should be doing every single day for the rest of your life. Lanie covers NC in her BU2MU book, but I would suggest you read ALL of Lanie's books.  She tells you the things that you really need to know in order to gain/maintain control of your situation.  Get those right away if you can and read them.  You will be glad you did.  I promise you.  And let us know how it's going with you.        [/quote]