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[quote=BettyBlue][quote=LOAqueen][quote=BettyBlue][quote=LOAqueen]He's an attention lover! My guy needs CONSTANT attention and reassurance. The best thing you can do is just let him know you do care about him, but don't feed into his neediness. Try positive reinforcement. Reward him for good behavior, and don't acknowledge his bad behavior (i.e. Being volatile and extra needy) But it is working! He's overwhelmed and confused and probably suffering from low self esteem! Send him healing positive thoughts. Envision him as being a strong confident man. No woman wants a man who is insecure and unstable![/quote] Yes the more he does this the more I feel he wants me to tell him how much he means to me. He seems to be after that, but then if I do say something he acts like he doesn't really believe it and he implies that my other friends (men, basically) matter more to me than he does. Kind of wanting me to get down on my knees to him and swear undying love.  Yes I'll imagine him as strong and confident. His insecurity is wearing me down a bit.[/quote] Oh girl! He is totally enjoying this. He is suffering from major low self esteem, but he could also be a touch narcissistic. He loves to guilt trip you, he needs constant attention in order to feel validation. I've dealt with this kind of guy before. They get off on people trying to convince them that they care. He knows you do. He just enjoys making you say it over and over again. It's a control thing. My best advice to you is to ignore it and don't feed into it. The best response? "I'm sorry you feel that way". that way, you're not playing into what he wants, and you are making it clear that HE is the only one that feels that way. Don't give into his games, and eventually he will drop it and do one of two things-grow up, cut it out, and start acting like a mature man, or he will get bored and move on. If he gets bored and moves on-it will be to someone else who will constantly feed his ego-and that means that he is far too damaged to have a healthy relationship right now. So let him go. If you act strong and confident, he will mirror your behavior (if he's worth keeping around). Don't play into it-he will respect you more and realize that childish games won't work on you! I know it's hard-but think positively, view yourself as a tall, strong, confident, regal woman who deserves the best, and envision him the same way. Good luck![/quote] Awww thank you! This morning I got a message from him saying I treat him like toilet paper. He said I prefer talking to other people and that I only pay him any attention when I'm bored and have noone else to talk to. He showed me capture shots that showed me online on my facebook later in the evening, and he said he knows I chat to other people. Well I mean....so what if I do? He was the one that said he wants only friendship. So why is he in such a state about me being online late in the evening? Anyway, he has unfriended me for the second time in less than a week. The first time he did it, I messaged and asked him to come back, which he did. This time I'm leaving it.  [/quote]