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[quote=gini]Feeling very uplifted and lucky today..  I met my POI Andy last year in January. He was very much interested in me. He was very passionate about yoga and living life with exuberance . Very spiritual guy.. I admired him for how he conducted and how composed and happy he was all the time , found him interesting but never thought that I could love him. At that time I had feelings for another guy so I turned Andy's proposal down. So i was in a relationship with this other guy for almost 8-9 months when I realised that he loved me only because of my appearance. He never really understood me or how i felt. But I used to think that I loved him in spite of all that until one day when I came to know that he was cheating on me with another girl he used to work with . I could forgive and forget anything but not this.. So i was trying to cope up I was in chronic depression. I couldn't sleep without my sleeping pills or anti depressants. It went on for a month. I used to remember my Andy all the time. He used to talk about "Dropping all your identifications- Detachment to form an absolute union with the creator and Creation to experience the ultimate bliss" So i decided to contact him - A guy whose proposal i rejected.. but he had soo much love in him and no grudges or ego. Nor did he expect anything in return from me.. He made me promise that " What I'm going to teach you now you will follow it for the rest of your life" I agreed and kept his promise.  He used to explain me his theories of life and all spiritual stuff for many weeks . He changed my perception of life.. I was an angry, complaining and irritating person who used to cry all the time.. and he made me saint like.. lol.I became very peaceful, happy.. but i hadn't reached my full potential. And he somehow sensed it. He's the wisest guy I've ever met. He knew i loved him and when i told him he said " Its time for you to be free" . I took that as a rejection..I didn't really know what he meant back then but it kind of made me feel alone (which was not right on my part).. I got back to my jealousy, negative thought.. I thought of all possible negative thought that would make any guy breakup with a girl - im ugly, hes with someone else, he thinks im stupid etc. .. It was like I depended on him to be happy and to embrace life. So he left me . Now when i look back I feel he did what was best for me. I'm sure he might have thought about all this to make me more complete by myself. I wouldn't have learned so many things and been so happy by myself if he hadn't left me. I wouldn't have read these life changing books at all if I was very complacent at that time. One thing led to another.. Now i feel so powerful ! Its like it was designed for me to learn ( Meeting Andy ,a Cheating Boyfriend, reconnecting with andy, falling in love, him rejecting me, depression, despair , reading PW and other books and practising them ) - to be confident, to embrace life without having to look for any external support . Now I've shared pw technique with my mother and my sister because they wanted to learn it- because they saw this tremendous change in me.   Its been around 20 days now that i started reading Lanie's books.. so I haven't contacted him in last one month.. Before that i used to text him whenever there was any festival or special occasion... I used to initiate and he used to be super interested in the beginning of the chat.. but it was like suddenly he used to realise something ( realise that i was dependent on him or waiting for him or missing him )  and become cold abruptly.. like he used to end saying he has to go somewhere but he was never rude to me . Every time when we used to chat he used to show so much interest, he used to be really happy and then in 15 minutes he used to just end it..I felt upset every time . Now i realise that all that was for me.. To realise my self worth..  I know now that he is waiting for me , missing me and when i'm ready for him he will come.. I feel lucky that I met him, and that he loves me so much that "he would happily destroy himself for my happiness"- that's what he once said to me .. now when i look back everything connects.. :)[/quote]