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[quote=hellokitty]Hi [i]Claire_Bear, Sending you condolences!![img]http://cdn.boardhost.com/emoticons/sad.png[/img][/i] I'd like to think that friendship and romantic relationships are different. I have friends that I too have lost touch with and I know that if we were to reconnect it would be like no time was lost. Friends are like your sisters, it's a different bond than that we share with a love interest.  The guy I wrote about was happy to court me and find ways to be with me before he started dating someone else. Months later, when I did reach out to him, he was supposedly happy to hear from me and said that he missed me. We had a nice time evening together, but he disappeared immediately due to my reaching out which could be interpreted as desperation/impatience. I do know that if he worked for me; ie sought me out, he would've valued me and not disappeared the way he did. Perhaps me chasing him, made him think that I should chase after him every time. I changed the dynamic by reaching out. Men are crafty, if they desire a woman they'll find a way to let her know. Thank you for sharing your experiences and I hope you have a pleasant day.  [/quote]