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[quote=Piper][quote=carly100]thanks for your responses. I think though when you want something so bad, like I do, you tend to question the technique a bit too much. It's not as if I'm trying to say that it doesn't work I think its just you get impatient.  But unlike some others I'm willing to keep doing this technique and if someone better comes along I'm ok with that too. I was only with the guy a month or so, as silly as it sounds though, but never felt that way about anyone before. Things were going so well and we grew fonder but I made one mistake and he called it off. So I'm unsure if the emotion is there enough for him to reach out. It just seemed rather rash the way it ended, when he was the one initiating contact and chasing me the time we were seeing eachother.  I'm 30 and think I grew up later. Had my first relationship when I was 26 and only just started to have confidence, so this shouldn't be the end for me, but it's hard when all your friends are married and have kids, feel a tad behind.  thanks[/quote] I think when we want something so bad, sometimes it affects our visualizations because we are still living in a state of lack, unless we can get our emotions and thoughts under control. Impatience, neediness, obsession are all things that are NOT conducive with LOA and manifestation and should be taken care of before even practicing the techniques (that of course is my opinion, others may feel differently). If you allow yourself to heal and work on yourself, you may find that you don't actually want him, or you may find that you totally do. This is why you should get your mindset right beforehand. After a break-up, there are a lot of emotions and plenty of people, even if they weren't happy in the relationship, will want that person back because it's a normal response to being broken-up with. However, if you were to give yourself some time to think about it, you may feel differently. Idk. I'm rambling, now. Also, definitely do not compare yourself to friends or others who are married and have children because you will NEVER be happy. Again, life is way too short and we control our happiness. We don't NEED another person to be blissfully happy, but we always think we do. There is a person that I love more than anything, but I have learned to be happy during this time of separation. It's taken a very long time and I believed I needed him in order to even function, but that is not healthy and I don't want to be dependent on another for my happiness. He was the same way with me. Our relationship was fabulous and the most perfect one I've ever had or ever though possible and I also believe that he is "the one," which sounds cheesy, but that's what I believe and feel. Sorry again for rambling, but I just wanted you to see that it is possible to be calm and let go and still continue to do the techniques because anything is possible. Choose your happiness above all else and you will find it.  [/quote]