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[quote=Mcleanie77][quote=Lindsay]Mcleanie, you've echoed my thoughts exactly!   It had been a few weeks since my original post.  I most certainly have not let my ex go in the sense of not thinking about him at all and forgetting his existence, but I've become MUCH better at thinking about him and us in only a positive way.  I can't believe how much time I used to spend reliving the horrible conversations we had in the last few weeks of our relationship or seeing flashes of him and the girl he left me for happy or even creating fake arguments up in my mind!  It was like most of the thoughts I had about him left me in an anxious state (worried he'd never come back) or in a depressed state (missing him) or at times angry (over how things came to an end and the new girl). Am I 100% perfect at this yet?  Certainly not!  Not even close.  Every time one of these thoughts pop into my head, I try my best to let it go in light and love and replace it with a wonderful fantasy of us back together and happy.  .  I read a few of Veronica Isles books and I'm currently doing her 25 Day Challenge.  It has helped me immensely.  On day 4 of it, my ex emailed me.  Mind you, it was a work-related email, but it was the first time he initiated contact with me since February.  Another mistake you're probably making if you're anything like me, is thinking in the voice of "when we're back together" or "if we get back together."  Stop that.  Think in the present form.  We ARE together right now.  Not "when we get back together I'm going to take him to dinner at that Thai place."  Think "we're eating at that Thai place right now and he's eating the Pad Thai and I'm having the Massuman Curry and he's very impressed at my tolerance to spice.  We're sharing the spring rolls as an appetizer and sharing a bottle of Reisling." Be very vivid and very specific.  Taste that food. See him looking at you lovingly over the table.  Laugh at your conversations.  Even feel his hand in yours and the steam of the food on your skin.  [/quote]  You got it girl good job!!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 And those details I feel like I'm even there you made me hungry! 😂💞[/quote]