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[quote=RainbowUnicorn]I also have trouble detaching too. But like these lovely ladies say, you have to live your life. This does not mean just focusing on ONE thing (your career) but on ALL things - your health, your happiness, your well being, your friends, your community, your family!! Do YOU. Enjoy your NOW right NOW in this very moment.  If you feel empty - fill that emptiness!! Get out and start volunteering for causes that you REALLY genuinely care about. Go join some "Meet Up" groups and explore your city / town / surroundings. Get Out make new friends. Talk to new people. If you want to date, then date, there are lots of attractive men who have the qualities you want, you just have to look. Right now you have blinders on and focusing on just this one person.  I'm having trouble too detaching so this is not said with judgement, but with the utmost love and understanding. You need to do you. :). Figure out what makes YOU happy. Go out with your girlfriends, go to a spa, pamper yourself (if that's your thing), if not, maybe travel somewhere, and try not to focus on I wish So and So could see this, just travel for the sake of traveling - Go somewhere YOU want to go. If travel isn't your thing, I dunno, take up crafting, playing an instrument, singing, cooking, whatever YOU enjoy, make it something that you are truly passionate about it. The joy will flow easier (still hard though I know, of course it is, or none of us would be on this forum. We are all searching for love). You are not alone, everything will be OK. Just remind yourself you won't die without this person, your life does not depend on this person. You are your own complete, whole person, and you do not need another person to complete you or make you happy. [/quote]