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[quote=Lalande]Hey everyone! I came across Lanie's books a couple of weeks ago and already feel so much better in myself. I see all these great success stories and helpful pieces of advice but wondered if these techniques would also work for my situation. Sorry in advance if this gets lengthy! Last month, I went on a road trip from Canada through a small part of the US. By chance, a friend from my home country was also visiting the US on a similar time schedule to mine, so we arranged to meet up. On a Friday night, we chose a random tavern to relax in, and after getting sick of standing in a crowded place with no air conditioning, two seats at the bar opened up and my friend and I sidled in to take them. A guy sitting next to these stools instantly struck up conversation with me, and I thought he and I jived really well. We had quick, easy banter in between proper get to know you-type questions, took playful jabs at each other, both work in the same field, and we shared drinks a couple of times. He asked if we wanted to go to Portland with him the next day because he had the weekend to kill before going home to another part of the US, he was in this city for work, but my friend turned him down and left me at the bar to see her ex. He and I stayed chatting for a bit and by this time were sitting next to each other, so when I heard a buzz I instantly looked around to find the source and noticed he'd received a text. I didn't let my eyes linger, but I saw it was from another woman, and his mood did a total 180. What I did see is that the text was along the lines of how effed things are and how effed he is etc. On that note, he picked up both our tabs and walked me back to the intersection of my hotel, and talked about going back home the next day instead of hanging around for the weekend. We didn't trade info but he seemed pretty withdrawn at this point.  I can stop thinking about him in the sense of not obsessing and I'm not letting my imagination build a life with this guy, but remembering how I felt when I met him and how that night unfolded and what could have been had we gone to Portland is unlike any feeling I've experienced. I wonder if he wasn't just put in my path to show me that there are better options out there other than this guy who's recently come back into my life (but not in a romantic way anymore), but knowing what city he's from and that it's not too far from where I'm living in Canada, I don't see why our paths couldn't cross at some point. That said, I also don't see how I can manifest him exactly. Do I ask for him to do something during meditation like post some missed connections thing on craigslist or just keep visualizing us seeing each other again? Is worrying about the "how" stuffing up my mojo and also something that needs to be let go? Is PW even the best thing for this? Apologies for all the questions toward the end, I get caught up in reading things but it feels as though I'm out of my depth sometimes because the night did just.. end. Thank you for your time :)[/quote]