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[quote=forgetmenot111][quote=Piper][quote=forgetmenot111][quote=Piper]You have to remain in the "I don't care" stage. If you allow yourself to get upset and think about how you would normally get upset, then you will go backwards. Live your life and continue to do the techniques if you still desire to do so. Be happy and grateful. I know this is just generic advice, but it's the way to do it. I would also suggest that you don't over-do it - take a break if needed. I see a lot of people do pussy whip or other techniques all day long, and imho, it's too much and shows obsession.  Things happen when YOU are ready, so if you have resistance, even if you don't think you do, then it won't manifest as quickly as you want it to. If you think you're stuck, you will be. You get what you are.[/quote]   Piper, I absolutely love this advice. I am an obsessive-compulsive person by nature and I tend to try to be in control of everything. How can I get into the "I don't care "stage?? I find myself worrying about a third-party. I need to detach. I actually took a little break from the techniques. I find that they are kind of giving me a little more anxiety because I do them and then nothing happens immediately. Which is causing me to hold onto the outcome more. Don't you think my attachment and worries are forms of resistance?? I'm a little frustrated. And I KNOW that's not a good characteristic for manifesting. Any additional advice?![/quote] Your attachment/worries are definitely a form of resistance. Detachment is the best way to go. You need to get your mind busy on other things. I know this can be difficult when we want something so bad, but it's SO important. You need to do the inner work to get yourself to this point and the techniques, IMHO, will not get you to a point of detachment if you are doing them on another person. Instead, perhaps you can do them on yourself? Doesn't even have to be PW, just some visualizations where you are the person you want to be - happy and not obsessive. Lanie does talk about this a bit, and I'm Sure you could just be creative.[/quote] That's really great advice. Do I need to get into a meditative state to do these visualizations? I am driving myself crazy. Thinking about a girl that could possibly be nothing. I want to just be happy with where I am. I do love myself. Which is why I really want to be with my POI. Also, do you suggest affirmations? If so, which ones?[/quote]