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[quote=Piper][quote=forgetmenot111][quote=Piper][quote=forgetmenot111]   Piper, I absolutely love this advice. I am an obsessive-compulsive person by nature and I tend to try to be in control of everything. How can I get into the "I don't care "stage?? I find myself worrying about a third-party. I need to detach. I actually took a little break from the techniques. I find that they are kind of giving me a little more anxiety because I do them and then nothing happens immediately. Which is causing me to hold onto the outcome more. Don't you think my attachment and worries are forms of resistance?? I'm a little frustrated. And I KNOW that's not a good characteristic for manifesting. Any additional advice?![/quote] Your attachment/worries are definitely a form of resistance. Detachment is the best way to go. You need to get your mind busy on other things. I know this can be difficult when we want something so bad, but it's SO important. You need to do the inner work to get yourself to this point and the techniques, IMHO, will not get you to a point of detachment if you are doing them on another person. Instead, perhaps you can do them on yourself? Doesn't even have to be PW, just some visualizations where you are the person you want to be - happy and not obsessive. Lanie does talk about this a bit, and I'm Sure you could just be creative.[/quote] That's really great advice. Do I need to get into a meditative state to do these visualizations? I am driving myself crazy. Thinking about a girl that could possibly be nothing. I want to just be happy with where I am. I do love myself. Which is why I really want to be with my POI. Also, do you suggest affirmations? If so, which ones?[/quote] I think what works for one may not necessarily work for another, so I would try different things and see what is best for you. As far as meditative state, I try to always get as relaxed as possible when I'm doing visualizations. Also, and I hope this doesn't sound mean, because it's not how I mean it, but loving yourself and being with someone specific isn't necessarily related. I hope that makes sense. Being happy and loving yourself is feeling that way regardless of whether you're with someone or not. I was single for a long time, and I took that time to love myself fully and be truly happy and it wasn't dependent upon being with anyone. Then, I got into a very co-dependent relationship where I had to learn all over again to love myself after it ended. When I got back to that point, my current guy came back into my life. After my break up, I was positive I needed that person back to happy, and I didn't. Ok, a lot of words, sorry. And if I offended, I apologize.[/quote]