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[quote=Piper][quote=forgetmenot111][quote=Piper][quote=forgetmenot111] That's really great advice. Do I need to get into a meditative state to do these visualizations? I am driving myself crazy. Thinking about a girl that could possibly be nothing. I want to just be happy with where I am. I do love myself. Which is why I really want to be with my POI. Also, do you suggest affirmations? If so, which ones?[/quote] I think what works for one may not necessarily work for another, so I would try different things and see what is best for you. As far as meditative state, I try to always get as relaxed as possible when I'm doing visualizations. Also, and I hope this doesn't sound mean, because it's not how I mean it, but loving yourself and being with someone specific isn't necessarily related. I hope that makes sense. Being happy and loving yourself is feeling that way regardless of whether you're with someone or not. I was single for a long time, and I took that time to love myself fully and be truly happy and it wasn't dependent upon being with anyone. Then, I got into a very co-dependent relationship where I had to learn all over again to love myself after it ended. When I got back to that point, my current guy came back into my life. After my break up, I was positive I needed that person back to happy, and I didn't. Ok, a lot of words, sorry. And if I offended, I apologize.[/quote] Thanks for the visualization advice! & not to worry! No offense taken! (my response is not intended to be rude either [img]http://cdn.boardhost.com/emoticons/wink.png[/img]) I only said that because I have heard that you need to love yourself and be happy in order to manifest your specific person back. And I do feel that I love myself. But maybe the area that I am currently lacking is feeling okay and happy with where I am, as a single woman. And it does makes sense because my last long term relationship (NOT with my POI) left me heartbroken and I had to learn to be happy and that's when my POI came into my life. I just need to get myself back to where I was when he came into my life initially. Happy with my current state. I've said this before, but I really think I hold on because I fear God/Universe will assume I am happy without my POI and then it in turn will not be delivered. But based on all the success stories, this is definitely not the case. That's why I think continued positive affirmations and being happy with the present is key for me! Now it was my turn for a lot of words, SORRY!! :)  [/quote] But I think that is a fear that everyone has at one point - I know I did. But I will say, once I did become truly happy without him, I realized I didn't need or want him. However, that's not the case for everyone, and some still continue to work on their ex. Here's my question for you: do you truly, without a doubt believe you can be with your poi? Our beliefs fuel everything we do and if there is even a smidgen of doubt and you focus on it, instead of trying to rid yourself of it, you will get what you believe to be true. So, you being scared that the universe will not bring him to you is something you should work on. Also remember that fear is a very intense emotion and we tend to get what we fear more than what we desire. I think it's easier to fear something and get it because we can find a way to justify it and then blame it on "loa doesn't work." Definitely not say you're doing this, but I know people that have and they no longer practice. As far as affirmations, I don't think they could hurt. Some swear by them, some don't, so it just depends on the person. Hahaha no sorry's :).[/quote]