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[quote=forgetmenot111][quote=Piper][quote=forgetmenot111][quote=Piper]You're very welcome. I think the first thing is to get rid of the fear and doubt, then continue to work the techniques on the guy if you want. It's a process and takes time. We attract what we fear because fear tends to be a much stronger emotion and we focus on it. I would try to change your focus - put it on you until you rid yourself of the doubt that this stuff works. You can try to manifest small things at first and then work your way up to larger things. I did so much work on my previous ex and I was so dependent upon him. Once I changed my focus to myself, my kids and just being happy, I realized I didn't really want him anymore. The guy I'm with now came into my life during the time I was still pining over my ex. But, spending time with him, he made me forget about the ex. My current guy disappeared for a while and now he's back. I did do PW on him when he disappeared, so it did actually manifest, but took a while. It was when I totally let go of him that he popped back up and told me he was in-love with me and had been for a long time. I still thought of him regularly, but didn't focus on him at all. And, I've clearly had feelings for him for as long as he has for me. The letting go part is THE most important step in this process. You can visualize until your blue in the face, but until you are grateful and happy for your life, it may not happen.  Everything I've learned has been from LOTS of reading, practicing and finding out what works best for me. I read Neville daily and have for many years because he reassures me that anything is possible. So, I would definitely find some books that make you feel that way.   [/quote] Okay, so maybe I should do some more reading on LOA / success stories to assist myself with raising my vibe & also trusting the process. My controlling/obsessive nature takes over & I truly don't know how to let go. When you say that you thought of him regularly, but didn't focus on him, what do you mean by that exactly? Because when I start out thinking about my POI, I tend to stress about whether my technique has reached him, if hes thinking about me, if hes with the girl that I noticed is following him on instagram, etc. Needless to say, this is 100% attachment. And I know the letting go aspect is the most important with LOA. I exhaust myself. It's just so hard to wrap my end around the "living in the end" result when my physical realm doesn't show him here.  I am sorry to continue to babble. I just can't seem to get out of my own way![/quote] Don't be sorry, that what this forum is here for :) Ok, my password to get into my phone is his name, so when I would unlock my phone in the morning, I would type in his name and I would say hi to him in my mind. I would also think of him when I would see him name, but after a quick thought, I would carry on with what I'm doing. I didn't obsess, which I know can be a problem. I did, however, obsess a little after my break-up with my ex, but then worked to normalize my emotions. But my guy now, no obsession. May I suggest staying off social media all together? It only encourages an obsessive attitude, especially if you're an overthinker (like me).  It takes time. Here's the thing, if you truly want to be with him, you have to learn how to control your emotions and thoughts. You can read, which was awesome for me, or watch youtube or whatever works for you. Perhaps affirmations would work for you, but I would definitely focus on YOU, before him. Do things you love, improve yourself as much as you can - workout. Play video games to take your mind off of him. Listen to music that isn't sad and makes you think of him -  funny music (Richard Cheese is fab). Watch funny movies. Just take time to make yourself happy first.  [/quote] Yeah. I think I need to take a break from social media. Because, like you, I am a MAJOR overthinker. I create chaos in my brain! It's definitely become and obsession. And it feels terrible. I've never had this after a break up. What do you mean no obsession with your current guy? I keep saying this, but I think I hold on / have attachment because I fear that the universe won't deliver if I carry on with my life & happy with my current state. But the truth is that's when your intentions actually manifest, right? I have like 5-7 more pounds I'd like to lose (I'm down 33 right now) so I feel like concentrating on that would be really good for me. I'd reach my goal weight & raise my vibration at the same time.[/quote]