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[quote=forgetmenot111][quote=Piper][quote=forgetmenot111][quote=Piper] Don't be sorry, that what this forum is here for :) Ok, my password to get into my phone is his name, so when I would unlock my phone in the morning, I would type in his name and I would say hi to him in my mind. I would also think of him when I would see him name, but after a quick thought, I would carry on with what I'm doing. I didn't obsess, which I know can be a problem. I did, however, obsess a little after my break-up with my ex, but then worked to normalize my emotions. But my guy now, no obsession. May I suggest staying off social media all together? It only encourages an obsessive attitude, especially if you're an overthinker (like me).  It takes time. Here's the thing, if you truly want to be with him, you have to learn how to control your emotions and thoughts. You can read, which was awesome for me, or watch youtube or whatever works for you. Perhaps affirmations would work for you, but I would definitely focus on YOU, before him. Do things you love, improve yourself as much as you can - workout. Play video games to take your mind off of him. Listen to music that isn't sad and makes you think of him -  funny music (Richard Cheese is fab). Watch funny movies. Just take time to make yourself happy first.  [/quote] Yeah. I think I need to take a break from social media. Because, like you, I am a MAJOR overthinker. I create chaos in my brain! It's definitely become and obsession. And it feels terrible. I've never had this after a break up. What do you mean no obsession with your current guy? I keep saying this, but I think I hold on / have attachment because I fear that the universe won't deliver if I carry on with my life & happy with my current state. But the truth is that's when your intentions actually manifest, right? I have like 5-7 more pounds I'd like to lose (I'm down 33 right now) so I feel like concentrating on that would be really good for me. I'd reach my goal weight & raise my vibration at the same time.[/quote] I had it too with my ex when he ended the relationship, but it's a matter of wanting to feel better and doing the work to not be upset all the time. I totally understand the overthinking part since I'm the same. Like I said, I did PW on my current guy when he disappeared, but I didn't obsess about him or anything, I just allowed the work I did to take affect - it did, because over a year later he popped up and we're together :). It's so much easier to allow things you want to happen, rather than trying to force it. I tried to force it with my ex and he hasn't talked to me in a very long time (I'm ok with it). When he does, and he WILL, I doubt I will talk to him at all because I'm happy where I'm at now and he's not needed or wanted. I think focusing on those last couple stubborn pounds will help you a lot. Congrats on your weight loss :).   [/quote] Yeah, you make a lot of sense. It's like anything else. When I go to the store looking for something specific and I'm searching everywhere for this particular item. I have no luck, but then days later when I don't need it or want it anymore, there are a million. I'm going to take your advice and focus on me. Doing what makes me happy. And I have to say, being back at work is a major plus. My mind is occupied the majority of the time & im so happy and cheerful since I'm with my students.[/quote]