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[quote=Aliceinwonderland]HI Forgetmenot111 [i]Im trying to answer all of your questions as succinctly as possible so im just going to list them. "Did you know that he would eventually come back? I feel that I am saying things like that, but then I tend to doubt it."[/i] I  just trusted that he would.   Alot of times, at least for me,  when someone is about to walk back into my life I start seeing signs and their name everywhere, or references to places that they work. Those little signs keep me from doubting and give me confidence that they are on their way back to me, and that the universe is working things out for me.  Everyone gets signs in different ways though.   The little signs can help you stay confident and know that they are coming. Be on the lookout for your own signs. I used to have a really amazing tarot reader who advised that each astrological sign is governed by its respective element, earth/air/fire/water, and depending on your astrological sign, you may be more attuned to signs that are coming from that element.  As an air sign I am hyper-sensitive to birds, winds,  and clouds.  So sometimes the universe will give me an indicator through those mediums.  Everyone is different but this is something interesting to keep in mind. [i]"I am struggling with trusting LOA. Any suggestions regarding that"[/i] It was hard for me to trust and believe at first as well, and what I have found is that the things that are less important to me come first. My POI is not yet the perfect partner but he is light years beyond what he was. And he was the most stubborn unemotional man Ive ever met back than.  These small manifestations I truly appreciate.   Additionally, some things are just easier to manifest than others. I feel that it is due to the focus on the lack and the constant attention to what that not manifested yet.  So while you may not care about getting a free lunch from a stranger, you may very very invested in gaining the love of your former partner. So,my suggestion, is to take a look at the things that have manifested in your life that you may have overlooked. A free coffee here , a random kindness from someone, a promotion, a surplus of money from an unexpected source. If you focus on these small things instead of the big manifestation you are waiting for, It helps get you into that appreciative receiving mode where everything else can follow.   Also, read the success stories. There's too many to count on this forum that PW and BWD work. Some targets are very stubborn and it takes a little longer. I have found that once you just let go and focus your attention elsewhere and stop thinking of the lack, they come back with a vengeance.  [i]Did you do them to Lanie's meditations? Or did you just relax and do your visualizations? Also, how frequently did you do the techniques? [/i] Yes, I read both of Lanie's books PW and BWD and downloaded her meditations for PW. BWD I do with the PW mediation, I just tweak it to me more loving (I have the three minutes of silence meditation. I hope this helped a bit. Alice [quote=forgetmenot111][quote=Aliceinwonderland]HI Forgetmenot111,  You had asked "How exactly did you set your intentions about him being the better version of the old him?" To be honest I just stopped thinking of him altogether and decided to date someone else.  In my head I said, If he ever came back hed be the exact version of what I wanted or I wasnt accepting him. I drilled this into my brain over and over again so by the time he did come back, I remembered not to get reattached until he embodied all of those traits.  It took several months to train myself to think that way.  Whenever Id get that inkling of "ohhh maybe we should be together" because he liked a facebook post, Id stop myself and say, "No he isnt the perfect partner yet, keep moving forward and dating other men until he is" Thats how I approached it. You also said "I like the analogy of the watering the seeds. But how would I be able to gauge the status if I haven’t heard from him since June ?? (other than liking my social media pictures & wishing me happy birthday in July)" Many many people on this forum actually are still blocked and have zero communication from their POI. Some are even married to someone else or with another person.  So focus on those things that are going well. Like him still liking some things on social media and wishing you a happy birthday. This is exactly how it happened for me as well..It started with small gestures on social media like a like here or there, but we had zero direct communication like texting or calls for MONTHS.  So It may not be today or tomorrow but it will happen. Once I started applying LOA and listening to subliminals (get your ex to go crazy over you 6x daily by Matrixplay99 on youtube)on top of BWD and PW things began ramping up a lot. Within a couple of weeks he had finally reached out and texted me after several months silence, and we are now spending time together and texting regularly again. Finally, something LOA teaches is to stop focusing on the outcome and the lack of what you want, because then youll only attract more lack. A trick I use to get around this is to visualize two parallel realities. The first one is this reality is what you are experiencing currently, the second is the reality of what you want already have had manifested. Try to envision yourself stepping into in the second reality and act as such...however you can imagine that happening, perhaps stepping through a mirror.  I personally envision myself drawing back a transparent curtain and stepping through it. Its good to be creative about shifting your realities. Then begin living in that second reality where everything you want has already come to pass. Be Appreciative, grateful and loving the fact that your POI is with you and the partner youve always dreamed of.  [quote=forgetmenot111]Alice,  that is SO good to know because what I have been doing is any time I think “omg he hasn’t reached out” or “I wonder if he’s  talking to this girl..” etc, I go and look at his social media and I spiral completely out of control. I need to do just that. Think happy thoughts of us together & positive things related to him.  Because the truth of the matter, I have zero resentment or negative feelings towards him, I just get anxious because I do not have proof in the physical realm.   I am such an A type personality. When I want something, I do everything in my power & work my ass off to get it done. I think I try too hard to try to control this process, and it’s just not feasible.   And OMG! The way you described your man when you first dated describes mine to the T! We would never do anything, we went for drinks our first 3 times out and then we’d rotate my house & his and order pizza, have some wine, watch movies/tv.  How exactly did you set your intentions about him being the better version of the old him?   I like the analogy of the watering the seeds. But how would I be able to gauge the status if I haven’t heard from him since June ?? (other than liking my social media pictures & wishing me happy birthday in July)   Thanks soo much!!!!  [/quote]  [/quote] Hi Alice!  Thank you so much for responding. You seem like you were really strong with moving forward with your life. That's what I need to start acting like. It's funny because I have been thinking about using a dating app. Maybe I will do what you did. If anything, dating around will raise my vibration and I'd stop feeling low or sorry for myself that my POI ended things with me. I like that you mentioned your thought when he liked your facebook post(s). I feel like I read into him liking my social media posts. So let me ask you, you said when you would have an inkling about how you should be together you would say he's not the perfect partner yet. Did you [i]know[/i] that he would eventually come back? I feel that I am saying things like that, but then I tend to doubt it.  You make a really good point about others on this forum about their situations with their POI. I do need to be grateful for the contact we do have/had recently. I will  definitely look into the subliminals that you mentioned! I am struggling with trusting LOA. Any suggestions regarding that?? A couple more questions (I'M SO SORRY!) regarding your PW/BWD techniques. Did you do them to Lanie's meditations? Or did you just relax and do your visualizations? Also, how frequently did you do the techniques?  Thank you so much for your help. You are extremely informative. Sorry for the long post & the tons of questions. Hope to hear back from you!  :)[/quote]  [/quote]