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[quote=Jag123][quote=ThisIsMyUsername][quote=AnnanWater]10 months that was a really long wait! [/quote] Try 3 years and counting. Still blocked on everything... and ignored.[/quote] HI Thissmyusername. I am sorry to hear that you have been in your situation for such a long time.  I know how it feels and doing the techniques can have the opposite effect if you feel like you are "waiting".  You are effectively putting your life on hold until someone comes to tell you you are okay and they love you.  I strongly believe the techniques work and Lanie is a saint for writing them so simply.  However, my own personal experience has shown me that my life reflected how I really felt on the inside (which was that I was inadequate , needed him and was [i]waiting [/i]for him to prove otherwise - even if I couldn't fully admit it).  I could have done techniques day and night (and I did) but it couldn't happen until I built a solid foundation as ljt beautifully pointed out.    It isn't actually about him, it's about you.  You can have him back but only truly when you get yourself back.  This is my truth; however, and everyone has their own path.  The success stories I read that are truly lasting are when women have empowered themselves with enough armour.  When they are on the top of their own personal game,  [i]they[/i] choose whether [i]they [/i]want them back and [i]if [/i] they want them back. The fact you are blocked or ignored becomes irrelevant because it says far more about where they are in life than what you now choose to invite into your reality as your main focus.  You can love someone and at the same time love yourself the most.  Maintain high standards about how you allow yourself to be treated by others. This isn't a lecture because I know too well the stuck, gnawing feeling of wanting someone who appears so cruel but you want them so badly anyway.   Emotions hurt and feeling are real, honor your pain and feelings - just face what they are really trying to tell you. That you are ignoring you.  Channel your inner Madonna or GaGa , get yourself to the point of magnificence - or just feeling better - [i]then [/i] do Lanie's marvellous techniques and watch what happens :)  It should be fun not painful and I am sending you love xxx[/quote]