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[quote=Blue Deer]Thankyou Jag123. I wondered if I had been too negative here, but I think the way forward for me is to completely detach, because my negative attention to his behaviour was attracting more of it. And I was too emotionally involved to completely turn it around from here. He has been a great teacher though, because he showed me clearly that I was operating from a base of not feeling worthy of expecting what I wanted from him or any man. That is, love, trust, attention, mutual respect. An earlier version of myself would have said "he is just an **sshole but in truth he is a mirror showing me my blind spots. So I have unfriended him on FB. I am concentrating on me for a while until I can genuinely send him the best and think of him in the best light.  Oh, and that is great news about your ex! Good work!! :)[/quote]