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[quote=Jag123][quote=luvvthings]Wow, your post is really inspirational to me, mostly because I am in the exact same situation. My ex left me for someone else almost a year ago and has not spoken to me since. Although I diligently used the technique, I was met with even more heartbreak and he basically pushed his relationship in my face on social media last month. Some people on this forum are telling me that sometimes it's just "by meant to be".... but I don't believe that. When you let go, did you stop thinking of him altogether?[/quote] Hello! I am glad my post resonated with you, it has been helpful for me to write out and share what has been going on.  I think the scenario we are in is pretty common.  To answer your question, I didn't stop thinking about him, no.  However, the way I thought about him changed.  I stopped making him my "everything", and I stopped viewing what had happened as the most important thing and making it central to my life.  I didn't realise at the time what a powerful move this was, I was just tired of feeling out of control and helpless. I got angry and wanted to take my power back.      Keep yourself busy and fill up your time to be centred around you.  I didn't forget about him as I started to centre my energy but the yearning feeling began to dissipate, the incessant personal questioning of the "hows" lessened and I felt less of a need to do any technique out of desperation to get him back. You choose how much of his social media to look at.   However, whilst you are in a place of need to control,  or desperation - like you are now -  you will not be able to help yourself, and cause yourself more pain.   It is not a case of forgetting him - you can't you are human - it's more a case of re-framing his place in your life even though you don't see him....for now. The moment I changed his ranking in my affections and placed my focus elsewhere he came back.  Trust me I was blocked on everything, he had a girlfriend he was GONE.  As amazed as I am by the turn of events in my life, today (because I am tired) I can feel myself falling into old thinking habits of  wanting to make something happen or wondering "how".  I want to talk to him and actually if I wanted to I could.   However, awareness is key and I am now more sensitive to my own energy.    If I  reached out he would reply but I would be coming from a place of lack - energetically he would sense that and so would I. Lo and behold the universe would reflect my vibration (and his) and I would be back to square one.   We can all feel when we are doing something because it's light or fun or because we want something so badly.  That wanting something so badly is us coming from a place of lack, so don't romanticise it, like I used to. Lol!   Doing any kind of technique or reaching out from this place never got me what I wanted which is why, maybe, even though you were doing PW everyday nothing happened and you were faced with more of what you didn't want to see  - him on social media. So rather than contact him or wonder how, I am going to have a hot shower, get into clean sheets and read a book.  When I feel better and have centred myself again, I will re-visit the situation.  So, I won't forget about him but I will distract myself (in a very loving way) until I can look at the situation again from a different perspective, from that place, I  could do PW or BWD sending loving energy rather than desperate vibes :) I will say, I never in a million years thought we would have met again the way we did or to have conversation again. If it happened to me, it can happen to you, but you must change your mindset not about him but about the situation. Don't listen to anyone else,  or place your energy on anyone else who happens to be in his life for now   You can do it, but you have to make yourself the Queen  of your own world and frame him in your mind as someone lucky to have you. That will take some time, but for now, just make it about you.   Hope this helps a little.  J x  [/quote]