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[quote=Jag123][quote=unicornsnrainbows][quote=Jag123]I believe that all of the above came from letting go, I let go via the tapping vids but I think you can let go anyway you choose as long as your mindset is changed and you get out of the bloody way!  If I had have acted from the place of lonliness I doubt very much I would have gone anywhere last night.  I would have stayed at home alone because that is what I was vibrating.   Additionally , had I have text him from a place of doubt and fear, I do not think a phone call would have happened at all, because I would have been vibrating doubt and fear regardless of what was said in a message.  Me and the boy have arranged to get together after Christmas (I am away for Christmas), which will be a wonderful thing, but I'm not getting excited or overthinking it.  It's the next logical step and I am letting go again.  I have no desire to contact him  today or tell anyone (in my real life lol) about this, like you I'm just waiting to see what comes next :)  I must say, now I have spoken to him it's much easier to go back to trust again.  Much harder when there has been no contact, however, keeping the faith is the most important thing.  I am spending my time and energy getting ready for when he is back in my life.  Who do I want to be, and I need to redecorate lol!  I'm getting on with creating the best me instead of bothering the universe with continually asking when.  Trusting and letting go is EVERYTHING!  J xx[/quote] Isn't it great to see how things happen as soon as you make peace with not having something?  I think this is the thing that so many confuse about "letting go".  It doesn't mean you don't desire that thing anymore (company/specific person/material object); it just means that you let go of the angst and desperation for it and find a way to feel good [i]anyway.  ...[/i]to know that no matter what, you're okay.  The worse it gets, the worse it gets.  The better it gets, the better it gets.  Sadness begets sadness.  Happiness begets happiness.  And so on.  And the more you ask the universe "when", the  more you'll be asking "when"?  So once again, most excellent job, Jag. Please keep sharing your journey; it's so interesting to see how these things work out, especially with the details.  [/quote] Exactly how letting go works.  I think there are those on this journey who are scared of letting go because whilst they have someone to blame for feeling bad, it helps contextualise the feelings.  "He did this or he's gone so now I feel bad".  Letting go means taking responsibility for your own feelings, it doesn't feel like it, but it's a choice to feel bad and put someone else in front of you, so that you do.  This is why letting go isn't easy.  You have to face the demons that allow you to put someone on a pedestal whilst leaving yourself feeling like shit.  I used to say "It's because I love him so much" Love  doesn't create that kind of pain, it's a lack of self respect that leads to all kinds of desperate behaviour.  You have to go through a lot of self examination to identify why you feel it is appropriate behaviour, and it's hard to start with.  The thing I have found is letting go is a continual thing as you progress, more comes up to challenge you.  For example my boy has text me tonight.  It's unusual, because recently, I have initiated and it leads to more.  But he has  and I can feel the angst in my stomach around what I had written, even though it was perfectly fine- this is because it's progress, it's new and I need to let go again from this point.  I am thinking about what he thinks rather than detaching myself from any outcome, it's about me all of it. It's all a work in progress...That's why I love this forum, anyone else would think this conversation was bonkers! [/quote]