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[quote=Jag123][quote=unicornsnrainbows][quote=Jag123]Don't you think there is that sweet spot when you are back in contact and still not sure of the intentions. It's frustrating because you want it now, but you have faith  that the relationship could actually be everything you  imagine it could be.   You can do the "work" safe in the knowledge that they are thinking about you..  It is the newness before full contact resumes and expectations arise - we are human after all! When you are back together or heading in that way properly,it is very easy to return back to the old familliar self and patterns - both of you. That's why this part of the  journey is so important in creating a new you energetically, to the point where the old familliar self and patterns don't exist anymore. I am glad it is taking time, this is where I believe we are at our creative best.  Last night showed me I'm not quite there yet, so I'm grateful for that. [/quote] Yes, I agree with this.  It makes a lot of sense.  I guess I was thinking of the last time I saw him, which was more than half a year ago, and how much it threw me off when he disappeared again.  I let what was in front of me gobsmack me, instead of staying firm in my creative shoes.  But I still had a lot to learn and process, so I don't regret any of this time gap.  It is almost certain that we would have fallen back into the old, familiar, broken relationship if we had started something up back then, even with all the time that had already gone by. [color=#0000CD][i]That's why this part of the  journey is so important in creating a new you energetically, to the point where the old familliar self and patterns don't exist anymore​.[/i][/color]   Yep, that's the balancing act!  And the part that is probably the most rewarding, when you can see the change, the new dynamic that you have created, right before your very eyes!  I'd say this is the most exciting leg of the journey for you. [img]http://cdn.boardhost.com/emoticons/cute.png[/img]  [/quote] That's so hard, being left and wondering what the hell just happened! You've handled it beautifully, taken your attention from him and firmly on yourself.  It's wonderful.   I'm so glad that you don't regret any of it happening and are instead clear on who you will be (or getting ready to be) when he re-appears.  Which he will do, without a doubt, your energies are too closely linked. Usually when they come (because we call them in) they leave again because we can't hold our vibration steady for the relationship we want, as you have said above.  Time is irrelevant, it's what we do in that gap that really counts. What is most exciting,  is that you are actively working on who you want to be, and I love the way you describe your own journey of self discovery.  The result has to be different next time.  You simply can't have the same relationship you had, because you will literally be a different person. You are right it could never have worked before (for you or for me) because the focus was on getting him back and not on an improved version of the relationship and people in it.  Doesn't it feel powerful to know that we can create such a huge change! It's made me feel quite giddy at the thought!  We are magnificent creators all of us, even if a little bonkers at times :)[/quote]