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[quote=Ron0630]Y’all may not approve of my situation. I am trying to steal a man. Without going into too much detail, he is with another woman, I am with another man (okay we are both married) lol. He and I had an emotional affair last year and he was ready to leave his wife for me. Told me he’d give up everything, his house, truck, camper, shared income, dogs, family and in-laws for me. He wanted me to choose him. It took awhile for me to let my guard down, but when I did and let myself completely fall for him, it’s like he had a reality check and realized all he would be losing. We also got caught by my husband but this man still wants to continue the relationship, but as me as his chick on the side, but he wants me to leave my husband for him and be totally committed to him, but will not leave his wife. He wants his cake and to eat it too. My husband is still hanging on to me but I think it’s more for financial reasons. He is very hateful towards me and I struggle to end the marriage. Thing is, I don’t want to be the mistress. I want him to go back to wanting to give up everything for me like he was will to before. We are so highly connected, I know he is not over me. He and his wife are connected for the purpose of their child and for financial reasons. It’s a business relationship, and he is very stuck on his things. She makes good money and I really don’t and I know he sees being with me as taking a hit financially. I know I’d make s great step mom, I can be successful and can give him what he needs. I know I want to get him back to that state. It’s like he pushed me to love him completely, came in, ruined my marriage and career, then changed his mind. Then he wants me to leave my marriage, be his full time mistress (says it’ll be like we are married minus the fact he won’t leave her). I know he sounds like a selfish jerk. Lol. I want him to realize he can’t live without me and will give up everything. Way back when, he was devising a “plan” for us to be together. I want him to go back to that mental state. My question is, how can I manifest this? Currently, we are in no contact mode. He doesn’t want to talk to me until I leave my husband. It’s kind of his way of pushing me to do it. I do love my husband but he is emotionally abusive to me. Which is technically why I fell for the other guy. He built me up rather than tore me down. I still struggle to leave my husband. And I really am not sure I want to leave unless this guy is back in my life. Although, I may not have a choice in the end as my husband is pretty done with me and reminds me regularly of just what a piece of shit I am.[/quote]