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[quote=Sunshine&Dreams]I thought it was so funny. I had to fight the urge to giggle when I got the coffee. :p That you got ANY reaction is showing that it IS working. I think that's the thing. We get so caught up in our minds that it messes with us. Instead, think of it more as a game. Not a manipulation, not a forced effort, nothing but a playful lighthearted game. The visualization aspect just takes practice. As Lanie said in her book, she wasn't really that good at visualization, but she still got reactions. We are all energy beings so it's not that we're not affecting them, it's that we personally might be mentally messing with our own heads and convincing ourselves that we're not when it's just fear (may also be why the reactions). I'm VERY quiet and reserved in real life. Just remind yourself that's it's just for fun to boost your morale, take pressure off yourself. Have fun with it. :) Better you get at it, and the funner you have with it, the easier it'll get. Have you tried different places (instead of the parking garage, a park or a meadow with the sun warming from above - whatever you can easily visualize)? Or ways of doing it? Say, when you're taking a warm bath and you're relaxed, then visualize looking into someone's eyes that you can without any attraction?[/quote]