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[quote=Stardust]So I just found out a huge change happenend in my family that no one ever thought would happen. This isn't a story about my success, this one is way bigger. I thought some of you might need it as a reminder of why we're all here. 17 years ago my aunt had left her husband as their marriage was dead for quite a while. She was madly in love with him (she married him when she was 19 and he was her first crush) but she had an abortion performed because she was afraid of her baby getting some allergies she had back then and the doctors were afraid the baby would become ill. Now when she did the abortion her husband was on a business trip in India and she decided to just do it without talking to him first. When he found out he wanted nothing to do with her anymore but let her live with him because they already had 2 kids so for their sake they stayed in the same house but had separate lives. She couldn't live that way as she loved him very much and couldn't bare to see he wasn't in his bed and probably sleeping in someone elses from time to time. She moved out and took my cousins with her but the father still had an active role in their lives but never ever communicated with her. Everything went through the kids. He hated her with a passion and she suffered a great deal. For years she would get dolled up when she knew he was in town and pass by a cafe she knew he was always at trying to get his attention. Tried texting him a couple of times to discuss matters about their kids and got ignored every time. I tell you, we all knew he hated her and there was nothing that could change his mind. Many people had tried to get them back together with no success. She was still after all these years madly in love with him. After all these years of pining over him, hoping, crying and being desperate she had finally accepted the fact that it was over forever and their kids are grown now so she didn't need him anymore. Guess what? Yesterday I found out she moved back to live with him a couple of days ago. After 17 long years of hoping and being desperate now he decided he wants her back. I want to emphasize the fact that this man hated her more than anything in the world and has pretended she didn't exist for the past 17 years. I don't know what their relationship will be like but I know it will depend on her attitude. There is much work to do as they have both been hurt badly, but in all honesty, if my aunt managed to get back a man none of us ever thought was possible, so can we attract those fuckboys by being in the right state of mind and a good attitude. Let it go and prove to yourself you don't need him. Repeat after me: "I don't NEED him!" You know you don't!! You were a happy person before you met him so you can do it again. And I know it's easier said than done, we're all in the same boat here but we have to! Why would a guy want to be with someone desperate who is dependent on him? No one wants that. You wouldn't want a guy like that either. Your first love should be yourself. Don't ever forget that. Pussy whipping him will get him back but not if you're not in the right state of mind. You don't need anyone but you! Now I'm not saying you should PW someone for 17 years, please don't. Just detach, live your life, put yourself on pedestal instead of him and enjoy as he comes back for you with everything you ever wanted. I know we can do this!![/quote]