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[quote=Sunshine&Dreams][quote=madone87]Thank you for your input.  What I need to do now is just focusing on myself, so to speak? I do love myself but sometimes I got to think why this thing happened to me. I mean we used to be so good, so sweet and somehow it turns bitter down the road. I asked for a clear and honest answer but yet I didn't get any. Some of them say stop asking if he loves you because that's needy. So what should I do?  They say we can manifest anything yet I feel so many resistance. How focusing on myself will actually change the scenario and he eventually comes back by himself? :([/quote] See, that's where that resistance comes in. I say this from dealing with it myself so I hold no judgment or anything. We can say we love ourselves, and maybe we do for one moment or one instance, but as I've noticed about myself, then I start going down that same resistance path. Which is me putting labels into actions of another, or thinking why did they do this, that, etc. Yet that is showing us where we need work. Take my one issue is not focusing my time better. So then my person doesn't prioritize me, and I see it as not being important to him. But it's because [b]I am the one [/b]not focusing on [b]me. [/b]That's me pushed out (where that idea comes in). Whatever he does to you, there is something in your life, which you're not doing for yourself, and where that self-love comes in. If they aren't prioritizing you then ask where you're not prioritizing yourself. If they are saying they're busy, then where are you not managing your time better? If they aren't focusing on you, where aren't you focusing on yourself? That's why we gotta work on ourselves. Yes, focus on yourself, first. You even said it. You reached out, he said he was busy. You're still focused on him, so he's still focused on him, hence the resistance. That resistance you feel tells you that yes, working on yourself right now is what you should be doing. Don't take this advice if it doesn't feel right (always listen to your intuition inside most of all on how to do things), but I'd advise not reaching out and allowing him to come to you. Otherwise you're going to continue to get that resistance. NOT reaching out is the hardest thing to do, but it gets easier in time. I also agree with Piper's thoughts.  [/quote]