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[quote=Piper]The first problem here is that you still want him - meaning that you live in a constant state of lack. Techniques won't work if they are coming from a state of desperation and lack of belief. You can visualize all day long, but if it doesn't impress the belief, you will go right back to your old ways and no progress will be made. Next, everyone is you pushed out, so he is acting this way because you hold those beliefs of him. Those, of course must be changed to what you desire them to be. People don't realize how much control the have and anything can be changed - any situation can be reversed, but you must first go within and change your beliefs. It's hard work, but anyone can do it if they are persistent. You must change your inner conversations first, because they do out-picture into your physical world. This is probably the most important thing you can do. If you are holding conversations internally where you arw arguing with your guy, or someone else about how he treats you, that's what you will get. I do understand that this is a lot of work to control and maintain, but it is necessary since he is you. Also, you have to stop paying attention to what you see on the outside - it's not real; think of it as a screen where all you beliefs are played out. You are the projector and it out-pictures everything regardless of whether it is good or bad. If you get a bad thought, ask yourself if you want that to show up on the outside. Perhaps that will change your perspective a bit. A lot of people speak of self love, and while I do believe that is important in general, there are people who didn't do any self love work and got their person back. They belived they already had it, and remained in that state. Everything is belief, period. ALL is possible. Everything, but you have to do the proper work. So start with monitoring your thoughts and self talk.[/quote]