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[quote=Honey_Bee]Hi Everyone, I am a long time fan of Lanie Stevens first time user on the forum. I stumbled across Lanie when I was going through a break up although he was not the right guy for me so I used the techniques to cut the cord and find myself and better man. One year ago I met the man I had been waiting for and things moved very quickly for us, we knew it was right and he was everything I was looking for. Within four months we started renting a  house together and got a puppy! We also got our second dog two months ago so you could say I was living my dream life with everything i could ever want. We went through a rough patch the past month due to him being stressed financially and me being tired and lethargic due to my shift work and adjusting to my new job. I was definitely struggling with wanting to be intimate coz i was so tired all the time and I was just going through a bit of a downer stage. I never doubted my mans love for me during this time but i could see how he would feel unappreciated and upset by my mood swings. a week ago we had a really bad fight on a night out, he was drunk and being an ass and we both said very hurtful things to each other, I left and went home alone and he proceeded to get blind drunk, take illicit substances and wind up in the emergency room the next morning. He was okay but it was absolutely shocking to me and very scary. He has a history with mental illness and his depression had come back in a major way! he went to stay with his mum for 3 days then when he came back home he broke it off with me and said he didnt love me anymore and he was going to stay with a friend. I sent a heartfelt text to him later that night, he sent one back outlining all our issues, we talked and then he agreed to come back home to sort things out. that was 5 days ago and for those 5 days i just tried to be supportive, give him space and let him talk when he was ready. He was basically a zombie to me, he was very cold and distant, couldn't look at me or even touch me, it was very hard to go through but i stayed strong for him and didnt let it affect me. Then today he came home from work packed a bag and said he couldnt do this anymore he said he just feels nothing, he knows he isnt well and he needs to go get help but he cant be around me. He said he still doesnt feel anything for me and he cant make it work. So that brings it up to date now I'm just trying to come to terms with whats just happened and I am so confused, I dont know if this is the depression talking or he really is done with us. I know I am too emotional to do any sort of techniques yet and I need to raise my vibrations but i just wanted to talk to someone and try make sense of all this or just get some advice as to what i should do. His health and happiness is what matters most right now and I just hope he can find his way back to me, I dont have much experience with mental illness so its hard for me to understand what is going on with him and i dont know if any techniques would work on him..[/quote]