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[quote=skiinga]My ex-boyfriend is amazing in his own way,  we connect on every level.  When we met, I knew in that moment he was going to change my life either as a boyfriend or friend but that he was a soul mate. With that said...he has avoidant attachment and introverted.  We have broken up twice, both because he got angry and could not express his need to be alone, the only couple times where I couldn't sense his mood and it caught me off guard.  The anger is always an unexpected outburst of emotion that he doesn't know how to express healthfully.  We've been only friends now for about a year, he doesn't even tell people we broke up...they all just make their own assumptions.  We have great times together truly but when shit gets real, he can't talk about his emotions. Yet continually tells me I'm the best he's ever had and should he ever want to be in a relationship again..it would be me, he still loves me but refuses to act on it yet.  I manifest everything in my life, I create my reality and I totally resonate with this book.  I did the love spell for the first three times and then again a week later, with some special techniques thrown in.  On Wednesday after the first few times, it was his bday and we had an absolute fantastic time together.  Friday, I did the next love spell, we went to dinner and he later exploded on me for something that I thought I was doing as a joke (we joke and laugh a lot).  He hit the wall and he went to bed angry, I haven't seen that anger in three years.  We've become somewhat of best friends at this point and I think I might have angered him by talking about a guy I was considering dating...which I've done before...I didn't change or act differently.  I absolutely believe in this book, I know it works. Should I keep doing it or did I just make our love worse? Thinking I maybe stop talking to him for a bit and let the spell work? On a side note, I'm in such a good place in life, very positive, optimistic, funny, have a lot going with my career, I'm in a good place...there's no disbelief or doubt. Your thoughts are very much appreciated.[/quote]