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[quote=intentions]Yes I can break down Lanie's routine. In the beginning after the break up when I first started Lanie's routine, naturally I had sleepless nights and that needy I miss him feeling. I started doing PW probably 3-4 nights before bed just so I could sleep. I ended up buying Lanie's package set, I think it was $69 for CTC, PW and some other meditations. Worth it!!! This helped me in the beginning because I really needed to calm down and her voice, it really puts you to sleep. I also probably did pw when my heart ached, it could be 2-3x a day and skip 2 days then 2x a day and skip a day. .  There were days I missed him everyday so I just did it when ever I needed him.  Doing Pw made me feel good because I truly tricked my brain to think, that him speaking to me was in real time as if it were really happening. Now sometimes, I had my eyes open while I talked to him, this helped me feel that it was more real. I felt all the strong emotions of happiness when He said he was madly in love with me and that he couldn't live without me. There were times, during pw my mind would wonder so instead of bringing it back to him, I saw him in his room super depressed over me.   Eventually the pain subsided as doing these pw viz, helped me feel good and I started telling myself whenever my heart ached, so and so is madly in love with me. Sometimes I would laugh because it got to the point, I just knew he was in love with me. That is how powerful your mind is. When you have convinced yourself of something, it will deliver it. I convinced myself he had regrets over losing me and that he was crzy in love with me.  I did bwd a few times maybe 6 times total?.. I hate to say this because its embarrassing but there were times I took care of myself intimately and Did bwd with it. I know he felt these because when he started reaching out to me again, I did a bwd intimate session and he called me and we talked for 2.5 hours one night. These last few nights he has been calling, texting etc and shown interest. Since this post, he texts or calls everyday. Not sure how long this will last, but as my heart is not hurting anymore, my heart doesn't look forward to his calls or expect it. If he calls great, if not, there is no wanting or yearning. I do like that he does because I still care for him. He also admitted he was intensely depress, he just didn't say over me. My pw  sessions went from 2-3 times a day on days I missed him to eventually 2-3 x a week and then to just whenever i ached over him but again, because I was doing them, I started getting attached eventually later as well. Because when I was getting attached I would do more. Eventually I had to force myself to detach and do less so I could live my life without being obsesed over him. But it wasn't until the embarrassing things he said about me to my friend that I needed to cut feelings for him with the CTC, I used Lanie's recordings both time and it felt good letting all that hurt and baggage go. Again, once I did the ctc, if I felt hurt or pain over him. I would remind myself that he wasn't worthy of me and I would be open to better men for me out there. Although I was forcing myself to be over him, I still kept telling myself everytime I thought of him, that he was madly in love with me and crazy about me. Once I started talking to other guys who were great that also helped with getting over him. When I truly was not yearning for him was when he started reaching out.  ps one more thing, I know this is personal. He as a man, wanted to sleep with me. I am still attracted to him and wanted to but I held my ground and wouldnt. I told him, I dont sleep with anyone who isn't my partner. Another thing too, I also told him, I would never go back to him and that I had made up my mind and there was no changing it. I think these two things also made him a little crazy and that could also contribute to him calling and or texting everyday. [/quote]