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[quote=Shawneegirl1980][quote=Jim Chien Beige][quote=Shawneegirl1980]Kukasai...well the other story just illustrates how, as i stated in the post before this one...we tend to be SOOOOO sure  about negative stuff...although there may not be any evidence of anything negative...yet we dont do it the other way around.  I can actually tell SEVERAL real life stories that illustrate this...but here is one more... A friend of mine had recently found out her dad had another daughter and that she had a sister.  She was thriled to find this out!  I was actually happy for her.  But there is one problem...you see...this friend of mine has a nasty habit of seeing the worst in people.  She doesn't have to have ANY evidence that people are bad or shady...but she is SO sure that people are...that it always ends up being that way.  After she talked to her sister...her words to me were, "She seems nice but when things seem to good to be true...they usually are...i hope i dont find out anything about her that 's bad"...when she said that...i said "Oh Lord..." to myself because I instantly knew what she was doing...she wasn't giving her a chance...she had already made up her mind that something was going to go wrong...and sure enough it did.  Her sister had a wedding not long after they got in contact and wanted my friend to be in her wedding. Everything she feared would happen at the wedding (people looking at her crazy...not being welcoming, her sister showing her ugly side...etc)...it happened!  And she almost seemed satisfied that she ended up being right!  Not realizing that SHE was the cause of everything that went wrong because she DECIDED it was going to go wrong before she even got to know her sister.  She always does this...and always wonders why she seems to get the worst with people...smh....And i have tried to talk to her about this several times...but she doesnt seem to get it.  So it's to a point, I let her handle it in the way that she pleases...some people would rather be right than be happy...[/quote] One question... Why is she your friend? Probably she thinks things about you too!!! Be careful.[/quote] Excellent question. I ask myself that quite often. And i know for a fact she thinks that way about me. I think i still communicate with her out of guilt that i would ne a "bad friend" to let her go. But i have to let THAT go as well....and i spend so much time trying to manifest good things toward my kids, family, relationship, job, etc...that i almost dont have the extra energy to put into trying to change the dynamics of our friendship....so letting go would be the best thing...[/quote]