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[quote=Lanie Stevens][quote=Marz]Hi Sisters! Hi Lanie! Lanie, I want to first thank you for your books, emailing me back and inviting me here. This is an awesome group and I'm excited to participate.  I've been in a quite complicated relationship with a (very) difficult man - but your technique + giving him his space has made him behave so incredibly sweet towards me. Don't get me wrong, he's not a jerk - but he does have some commitment issues and he's disappointed me quite often and repeatedly.  We broke up on NYE and took a break from speaking (here's when I did the technique consistently). Last night he told me that he was sort of upset at that the fact that I was happy during our separation because he wasn't, then he asked "what do we do now?". I told him that we can move forward as friends and that's all we really can do at this point. I also told him I am in love with him ... I'm sure he knew that, but felt he needed to hear it because I could tell that he was afraid I'd gotten over him.  So, ugh, I know this sounds like a lot! But this man is the love of my life. In 35 years, I've never loved someone so much - to this capacity or continued to deal with BS like I do with him - but he needs to know that we will not just get back together at the snap of a finger because it's what he wants. In this aspect, men are a lot like children and they can't be spoiled. ;) I'm continuing the technique for both of us. I will continue to love him (especially in my technique) and hopefully help him heal from certain issues and insecurities that lead him to behave the way he does. I not only want him to love me, I also want happiness and balance for him.  I look forward to things getting better for us and a time where we can get back together and have a much better understanding and love and trust for one another. I will keep you guys updated on what happens :)[/quote]   Thank you so much for sharing your experience.  It sounds like he is truly the love of your life and I know how that feels.  Use the technique on him (especially at night) and visualize him lying next to you in bed as you are using the technique.  You are holding his hand and feeling the love, warmth and security between the two of you.  It is a warm, secure feeling and it is real in your mind.  Allow yourself to fall asleep in the comfort and knowledge that it is real.  It will affect him as well as you.  Bless you sister! Big Hugs, Lanie PS:  Being content through a separation is huge.  It means that you are finding peace within yourself and it will empower you even more.  [/quote]