Change your thoughts rite now sweetheart because if you do not, you will manifest them dating or him dating other women. 

Just remember there is NO OTHER WOMEN!! THERE IS ONLY YOU!! Visualize you and him together ONLY!! Do not sabotage yourself my dear. 

Do not base anything off of social media. I have worked so many conferences with a man I dated and I briefly seen him at these conferences, but if you would see the pictures from the events through out the conference that are posted on social media you would think we were around each other the entire time.

THE IDEA OF forgiving is really hard for some people, especially in relationships. If you've been lied to, cheated on, or treated badly, it can be challenging to just say, "No biggie-all is forgiven." I've never been one to hold on to grudges or stay angry at someone, but I did have a hard time letting go of someone I cared about, no matter how badly he treated me. Even if I hadn't talked to him in months, I thought about him and got sad about things that had happened or wondered what he was doing, if he ever thought about me, and if he was dating anyone. 

I think most women obsess a little over an ex because we're just way more emotionally driven than men. Plus, now we have so many different ways to see what someone is up to that it's almost impossible not to do a little sneaky cyberstalking. Holding a grudge and holding on to the past are basically the same, whether you're angry or nostalgic. It's so hard for some women to let go of a person they cared so much for. Even if you're in a relationship that's on and off, when it's off it can feel like a death.

 I don't like to use the word forgive because I don't think the forgiveness process really works for most people when it comes to exes, not to mention it's next to impossible if you're dealing with a difficult breakup. Letting go is a lot of work, and sometimes that word just sounds too generic and one-dimensional for a complex breakup or long-term relationship issue. 

The best way to move on and let go of someone takes a little courage, but it's really simple. In fact, it's so simple that sometimes your mind will go crazy trying to make it complicated, but here it is: ​

WHEN YOU THINK ABOUT HIM, WISH HIM WELL.

Yes, wish him well! You can call it sending blessings, good vibes, or good energy, but the most important thing is that even though you might feel hurt or sad, you'll heal and even thrive when you truly wish him well. This might sound weird and New Agey, but trust

40 Things EVERY Woman Should Know About Love​

1. When it comes to men, act like the buyer, not the seller.

2. Men are not women. They don’t want to watch The Fault In Our Stars with you.

3. The hottest guy in the room is usually an asshole.

4. Hold on to your girlfriends. They will fulfill you in ways a man can’t.

5. Bitching and nagging don’t work. The only thing that really gets a man’s attention:  leaving.

6. In a negotiation, you’ll probably end up with the least you’re willing to take. This is true when it comes to men also.
So: have high standards and stick to them.

7. A man in love will do anything for you…until he realizes he has you. So when you give yourself to him, try to hold a little back to keep him on his toes.

8. Settling rarely works. It’s like buying something on credit — you’ll eventually have to pay. Be picky.

9. You don’t need to know how to cook but most men will appreciate it if you do.

10. There are some fantastic men out there but whether one of them becomes your boyfriend or husband depends a lot on how much you respect yourself. 

 11. Men want to be successful, at work and in their relationships. If you want to make him happy, show him that he’s succeeded in making you happy. (Conversely, complain all the time and he’ll associate you with failure.)

12. Don’t get caught up in how good a guy looks “on paper.” His resume might make him seem like a catch but he might just be an asshole walking around in catch’s clothing.

13. Men will aways look at attractive women, even when they’re in love. It’s not necessarily a bad thing. The good ones do it in a way that isn’t obvious.

14. If a guy isn’t into you, don’t doubt yourself — doubt him.

15. Your physical appearance isn’t the most attractive part of you.[url=http://www.thebolde.com/act-like-hot-girl-ugly-girl-26-differences-help-f

lildreamer wrote:

then I cut him off; then I got it again but he was an ass 
 

I cracked up laughing over this! Thank you for sharing your beautiful thoughts. I love how encouraging and loving this posts is. This is exactly why I LOVE this forum and all you beautiful ladies so much. IT WORKS!
 
We never know what is going on in the background. We live in a world where we want what we want and we do not want to wait for it (myself included) and if we do not see results we throw in the towel and become the victim. We forget our self worth and also that good things come to those who wait. 

It has taken me awhile to understand that and sometimes I still get frustrated and a little envious of others success but   in my heart I know mine is coming and it is because of wonderful posts like this that helps keep my faith and belief alive!!!




 

pixelpie wrote:

Thank you for posting this Ruby☺

Of course! Thank you for always being so encouraging and mindful. Alot of your posts have really helped me through my journey.