​Is it ok to feel sleepy whilst doing the techniques?
Sometimes my heart feels really heavy as well, is this a good sign?

Yosburn wrote:

I have 2 things i need assitance with.
How do i do a better job of visulizing and not daydreaming?
I have Conflicting feelings.
My desire is to love the man & have positive, loving feelings for him but I am Conflicted because I am still feeling hurt & anger & resentment sometimes when I try my vizulaizations & i try to reframe those thoughts but am having issues. I don't want to make things worse by adding more negative thoughts to the matter by worrying about my unwanted thoughts.
Any help would be awesome!

Hi Yosburn!

I can definitely relate to what you are saying. In the beginning when I felt this way (BTW I was just using regular visualization techniques because I didn't know about Lanie's), it was really hard for me to visualize and whenever I would close my eyes to do so, I felt so anxious/angry/sad that it was almost impossible for me to visualize properly. So, what did I do? I didn't visualize. To be honest it felt weird NOT to visualize because I have been "visualizing" my whole life without even know about LOA. I've always loved coming up with a story in my mind of something I'd love to happen/experience before I'd fall asleep. It took me months (like 7 months) to be able to forgive and be happy again and think positively of him and I once again. Once I did feel good about him and I, he came back around and that is when I started visualizing again. (It has only been a month for me).

It is okay not to visualize right now. You will know when the time is right! Visualizing shouldn't be a job or something you *have* to do to get your person back. It should be something that you enjoy doing because it makes you feel good which results in sending out good vibes which then attracts your person back.

So, for now, focus on letting go of the anger and resentment and work on forgiving him and yourself first before you start visualizing  

Last edited by eleven (10/23/2016 1:14 pm)

Yosburn wrote:

Thank you Eleven! That helps a little! 😊

My pleasure! If you have any other questions, I'll try my best to answer them to the best of my ability! 

Hi, I am new in this PWD and HBD. While Lanie says dont worry abt the right/wrong way of doing, i am still keen to know if its possible to know that we are in our subconscious mind or we still operating out of conscious mind. It happens to me that i get a few outside/ random thoughts abt other people, or work at times. is it normal? 

Secondly, she says open the channel by connecting through a light coming out of our third eye and reaching their third eye. I do get problems while visualising this ray of light. What should i do at such times. Is there any other way of connecting to their third eye or subconscious mind?