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Aphrodite11 · 10/09/2016 2:31 am

When we use the technique, do our targets develop genuine, real feelings for us?

I learnt about LOA many weeks after my breakup.
We were friends with benefits before we entered the relationship. But he started developing feelings for me naturally. I didn't do anything to make him feel things for me. I was not even looking for a relationship at that time.
He couldn't sleep with anyone after sleeping with me. He tried with only one girl after sleeping with me and couldn't even get an erection.
He lost interest in other women in every way. He barely spoke with any of them (but he was not much interested in them to begin with. he was just adjusting to be with them because he couldn't find a girl like me. He always wanted a girl like me.)
We both loved watching porn and sex scenes from movies and he used to end up thinking of me while watching them and wanted to be with me and I was the one who watched them because I enjoy watching them. He used love watching them with me, if he liked some video he used to first share it with me.
He booked an apartment for a whole week so that we can live together. He hated being away from me.

He asked me to come and be with him for a few days in the city where he was posted.
I visited him but the day I was leaving for my city, he was extremely sad. He felt horrible.
He missed me too much and told me "I have never felt so sad when someone has left and I have never missed anyone so much."
And after we entered the relationship, things were still awesome. This was the man who wanted what I wanted.
He felt a comfort with me he never felt with anyone. He felt relaxed only with me.
I have three cell phone numbers and once I switched them all off for a day or so to relax. He couldn't bear that. He asked to me to at least keep my most private number on no matter what.
I was the kind of girl he always wanted, physically as well as personality wise. And he loved both of those things about me.
He always wanted me to be happy.
This was the type of man I wanted. He was crazy for me. He was lovely, amazing.
(For some reason, I am not feeling sad while typing what I typed above. I am not remembering all this and feeling sad, I am feeling nice actually. Perhaps I am learning to love myself and enjoy the memories.)

All this happened when I didn't even know about LOA or the technique. His feelings were genuine, real and natural. I didn't create them in him.
But now that I know the technique/LOA, I wonder if his feelings for me will be genuine.
What do you all think?

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Aphrodite11 · 10/12/2016 4:33 am

But doesn't it say in the book that the feelings aren't real? That we put them there?
The thing is I wonder if he feels anything anymore for me as he has a new person in his life and posts very lovey dovey things, although, the girls here have explained me that it is a rebound and hurt behaviour and he wants a reaction from me.
I want him to still have feelings for me so that I can water them with the technique/loa. I hope that's what I am and I will be doing.

Oasiscalm · 10/13/2016 2:33 am

Aphrodite11 wrote:
But doesn't it say in the book that the feelings aren't real? That we put them there?
The thing is I wonder if he feels anything anymore for me as he has a new person in his life and posts very lovey dovey things, although, the girls here have explained me that it is a rebound and hurt behaviour and he wants a reaction from me.
I want him to still have feelings for me so that I can water them with the technique/loa. I hope that's what I am and I will be doing.

Find the part in the book and quote it here so we can discuss it.

I'm wondering why you post so much about barriers. Do you want it to work for you or do you want to imagine and focus on every possible barrier there is.

Aphrodite11 · 10/13/2016 3:57 am

It is page number 84 in my kindle in browser.
It's chapter 8. Can't copy paste as kindle doesn't allow it.
OC, I do not wish to create barriers for myself.
The thing is that I am a person who is very curious most of the time and I get many questions in my head. I thought this was the place where I could get my doubts clarified and questions answered.
If you haven't noticed I am still learning. I am like a student and don't the students have doubts?
I get questions in my head "can this be done? can that be done? What kind of effect will this thing have and what effect will that thing have?"

I have noticed people here know a lot about things. They know more than me and I do not see anything wrong in learning from others. I learn different perspectives and different point of views.
I have learnt things from this forum to be honest. You people discuss so many things and I like to learn.

I know that paragraph in book may not exactly mean as it appears to mean, it may be a simple point but it was still pestering me and I thought I could ask people here as they understand things well and I might get the opportunity to understand a different perspective.

Aphrodite11 · 10/13/2016 11:16 am

That is the thing. I keep getting questions and I want answers.

I am perhaps putting roadblocks as you both say. But the thing is that I was so sure. I KNEW he is mine, I was perfectly ignoring the reality. I absolutely did not get thoughts of how, when, etc. I was happier.
I used to feel very nice after doing the technique/loa.
But since a few days, I don't know how this has started happening to me. Even I am shocked that I am thinking how, when. That feeling of KNOWING has gone. I do feel okay after doing the technique/loa but not as great as before.
And the problem is I am finding it extremely difficult to go back to that level of high.

As I said before, I understand with detailed explanation. See how Lanie explains the steps in her book. They are quite detailed. And still I had some confusion and questions. They have been clarified and answered.

Thank you for showing me where I am again going wrong. I really want to work on this sudden NOT KNOWING and HOW and WHEN phase. It has been very difficult suddenly.

Aphrodite11 · 10/14/2016 2:48 am

LOL
pixelpie, the way you put things in detail helps me understand. So far you have actually explained things well.
The thing is that so far when you have explained things, I have understood where I might be going wrong.

It's just that I keep getting questions and I get bothered till I don't learn about it.
Also it took me a while to realise that I suddenly started getting thoughts of when, how, etc. I didn't have them before. My high has worn off.

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