She tells me,

'You can say please all you want my answer will NEVER change! All the best with everything *name*"

ThisIsMyUsername wrote:

She tells me,

"Its all one sided *name*! I dont have any feelings for you! Please just move on! All the very best! You can do it goodnight"

She means it too...


Do I give up? If so, I don't know how... i want her back

I don't think 'giving up' is the way to look at it. I think 'letting go' is the best way forward and that is NOT giving up. Be grateful for her giving you this time to focus on yourself and love yourself. She is giving you a beautiful gift of freedom to work on yourself and the universe will unite both of you when the timing is right.
Letting go just means you put your trust in the universe to deliver all that you desire. I know letting go is hard and it is scary, I am in the process of letting go myself and I have my ups and downs with the process but it is so important to find your happiness within yourself, you shouldn't rely on another person to make you happy. Yes a partner enriches your life and it is so beautiful to have them with you to share special moments with but you need to first love yourself and find happiness within yourself, this is the fastest way to attacking you lover back.
Appreciate life as it is, you are a creator and you have the power to get everything you want!

 

ThisIsMyUsername wrote:

She tells me,

"Its all one sided *name*! I dont have any feelings for you! Please just move on! All the very best! You can do it goodnight"

She means it too...


Do I give up? If so, I don't know how... i want her back

Did you talk to her again ?

And after everything ive done? To push her away? And how needy ive been? This is actually the 2nd or 3rd time I got drunk and did this this week to her...
(I didn't post anything before because I thought, "fuck it, she's coming back. Im happy and positive"... but now...)

There's no way she's coming back to me... especially since she has no feelings at all for me... all I want is to be back with her... how can you all tell me I can do this when she is absolutely disgusted by me?
If I go NC, she'll probably be happy and find another guy and forget all about me; more so than she already has...

Last edited by ThisIsMyUsername (10/14/2016 2:06 am)

Aphrodite11 wrote:

Drunk dialing, eh?
That's actually what you shouldn't do. This pushes people away.
Looks like you are doing everything to push her further away.
Why don't you delete her number to prevent such incidences?
NC will reduce her anger, disgust or whatever negative things you think she might be feeling for you.
She needs a calming period. By contacting her every few days you are not even giving her the opportunity to calm down.
Why don't you stop drinking if you know you are likely to drunk dial her? Alcohol actually acts as a depressant too.
Why don't you work on yourself while being in NC? NC is about us.
I am not saying it is going to be easy. It is tough. I understand that you think she might forget you during NC. Such thoughts occur to most people. 
You can't just suddenly stop thinking about someone. But gradually you will. And then you won't get such thoughts. But to reach that stage you need the NC. It will take time.
Whenever you get a thought about the girl forgetting you during NC tell yourself "But I need NC for myself, for my sake, it's for my well being, I have to do this to save myself"

Thank you so much
Those are all really really good ideas!!

But... can I ask you... do you think I missed my chance with her? I really want her back and she just has no interest... i don't exactly know what will pull her back to "having interest in me", from "being disgusted and not having feelings for me"... and please know that however bad this sounds on here, understand its 100% more pathetic and nuts in real life)

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