Aphrodite11 wrote:

Dear, there are people who have been in worse situation than you and me.
Their exes have said and done things a lot worse than what our exes have said and done.
Yet their exes came back.
But they need to see some amazing improvement in us as a person.

Do you remember I posted in one of your threads about a guy against whom I was about to file a police complaint?
It has been two years, I never forgot about him. I would have been ready to talk to him now because I have calmed down, but he is still the same person. No change at all.

Your negative thoughts are preventing you from focusing on yourself. You won't change if you do not focus on yourself.
You are focused completely on what you don't have.
You need to bring focus on what you DO have.
In order to do that you can try journalling gratitude. Give gratitude for things you have no matter how trivial those things are.

You're so right!! Thank you!!

I want her back, so I have to get this right!!! My thoughts create reality... i can do this! I just need to get out of this funk... thanks

I guess I just can't get past the funk of the thought of her seeing someone else and never gaining interest in me again... that's my blockage. And i guess also knowing that she has no romantic feeling for me and doesn't see a future with me, makes me worried that she won't come back, romantically... any tips on that would be amazing

Last edited by ThisIsMyUsername (10/14/2016 3:24 am)

ThisIsMyUsername wrote:

Trying to stay positive and get back into the belief that she'll be back. After last night im just having trouble doing so..:/ I don't see how she'd ever come back to someone she's not even remotely attracted to

Give her a reason to find you attractive again. Think back to the person you were when you first met and all the reasons and ways that person fell for you in the first place. Continue to work on yourself. People are attracted to other people that are happy, confident, carefree, loving, and assertive. 

To be attractive to her forget about her for now and get your life back on track. Until you don't pull yourself together and seek the help you need, a job and stop drinking then no woman in her right mind will want you. I think continue doing the techniques but stop all the crazy stuff that you are doing.
Posting here and continuing with your behaviour is a complete waste of time. Seems like deep down inside you don't want her as if you did you would change and listen to the advice offered.

It is a shame that you are digging yourself deeper and deeper into a black hole. Life is too short and if you want her really and truly then WAKE UP!!! Women are attracted to strong men that have confidence and are secure in themselves and can take care of themselves. We want someone we can rely on. Someone that we can build a future with and do things together. This is attractive to us (or at least to me :-) ).
If i sound harsh it is only coz i want you to get your act together and eventually the girl.

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Last edited by Sam (12/06/2016 3:55 pm)

Im trying hard to push away any disbelief. I felt like I've succeeded at times, I don't know...

I'm here because it's all I've got left to get her back.

I don't know what to do. She really has zero feelings for me after everything ive done and she's made it clear they'll never come back. I just want her back. Im so low