Yes, you should give up. If it was anyone else, I'd say otherwise. You aren't in a mental state that you can do this. You need to step away for a number of months at least. You have been given advice and you can't follow any of it. You annoy her by constantly contacting her, you spam her...you can't stick to no contact.  You are mentally too weak and are progressively making the situation worse. No, you can't feel happy for a day or a week, and think it's all resolved. This is a long journey, and you can't keep your composure let alone have faith. You need to give up, move on completely, and try again say in six months to a year when you figure out how to be happy with yourself regardless of the circumstances.  I know this isn't what you want to hear, but in your current state, you don't have a fighting chance. With each move you make, she's getting further away from you. Leave her alone and figure yourself out...You have no self confidence and no self love...work on that. Don't try to be happy just to get her back. Be happy simply because it feels good. You are missing the whole point of deliberate creation. You don't just act like you're happy...you actually are.  You understand how to soothe yourself and not depend on everyone else to say what you want to hear. You think positively. None of these describe you at all. You need to work on that. Until you get that figured out CONSISTENTLY, nothing will work out with her.

You are scared that you are going to lose her?  You already have!!! You can either buckle down and do the work or walk away. But, constantly efforting is not and will not bring her back.

Last edited by DC (10/14/2016 10:38 pm)

Nice post. Some great advice.

Eleven, DC, thank you. So I deleted her number from my phone and re-deactivated any social media accounts I have. I literally have no way of contacting her now. I'm not going to lie, I do feel a little hopeless, knowing what she said about having no feelings for me, not even wanting being a friend and her seeing me as "a stranger" to her. But right now, contact isn't good. And i couldn't contact her now if I tried... right now I just have to find some way of letting go of this fear that she's not coming back... i want her back. Thanks guys.

I sent her one last text before deleting her number (mainly because my last text has to do with "i cant fucking live without you!!! I need you!!! Please help me!!!!". Attractive right?)

I sent her this:

"Just wanted to tell you that I care about you and that I really appreciate you. I really hope you won't push me out of your life. Im so sorry for my actions. I just want to let you know that having someone like you in my life is a blessing, and im sorry i haven't been the best person in any manner. If i could go back and do everything differently, i would. I care about you. I really hope you'll reconsider pushing me out of your life. You're an irreplaceable part of mine, and I hope to be an irreplaceable part of yours on any level, if we can mend things. I care about you and there's no one id rather talk to about my evenings and my life. Have a goodnight sleep and a great weekend."


Then I deleted her number. Really scared right now, and honestly, manliness aside, I could really use someone to talk to because I'm so anxious, but yeah... now I can't contact her and i hope that this works... i want her back. I pray she'll reach out to me and give me another shot despite saying she won't because she has no feelings for me... kinda wanted to be with her by Christmas this year... pretty fearful right now. I feel hopeless and feel like the odds outweigh me, infinity-to-one. Could use someone to talk to. Thanks guys.

Last edited by ThisIsMyUsername (10/15/2016 12:57 am)

When you get thoughts where you think she isn't coming back just tell your self "She is mine, she is coming back, she wants me, etc"
Although, I do agree with other who said stop for now. Stop using loa in order to get her. 
Take a few months off. Use loa for a job, money, new friends, etc.
I do not think there was any need to send such lengthy SMS to her saying all the things you have said. You are doing everything you shouldn't. An apology in sms would have been enough.
You still have her on pedestal. You should be on  that pedestal and no one else. 
The moment you replace yourself on that pedestal, others will replace you. You consider yourself replaceable and so others  consider you replaceable too.
You said you will "wait" for her. No one comes in life if we wait for them.
This girl is the only thing you have in your life. Your morning begins with her and your nights end with her. This isn't what you should have right now. You need to GET A LIFE. Staying at home doing nothing but "waiting" for her, checking you r phone day and night to see if she called or texted, drinking, calling, texting her is not a life.

You come here, you take advice from us but you do not seem to utilize any information given to you.
You have been advised repeatedly to use NC. but you keep finding ways to  break it. You won't see the benefits of NC in few days. It takes weeks and months. I am not talking about getting someone back benefit. I am talking about the self growth benefit, clearing the thoughts benefit, reduction in thoughts about them benefit. People come back only after they see us improved.
We have to delete their numbers in order to prevent ourselves from contacting them.
Sitting and watching show on TV on how to get fit doesn't help you get fit. You have to implement the instructions given on the show. Taking advices from us on how to get her back won't bring her back. You have to DO and IMPLEMENT the advises.

I think you have some anxiety issue. You really should  see a psychiatrist.

Aphrodite11 wrote:

When you get thoughts where you think she isn't coming back just tell your self "She is mine, she is coming back, she wants me, etc"
Although, I do agree with other who said stop for now. Stop using loa in order to get her. 
Take a few months off. Use loa for a job, money, new friends, etc.
I do not think there was any need to send such lengthy SMS to her saying all the things you have said. You are doing everything you shouldn't. An apology in sms would have been enough.
You still have her on pedestal. You should be on  that pedestal and no one else. 
The moment you replace yourself on that pedestal, others will replace you. You consider yourself replaceable and so others  consider you replaceable too.
You said you will "wait" for her. No one comes in life if we wait for them.
This girl is the only thing you have in your life. Your morning begins with her and your nights end with her. This isn't what you should have right now. You need to GET A LIFE. Staying at home doing nothing but "waiting" for her, checking you r phone day and night to see if she called or texted, drinking, calling, texting her is not a life.

You come here, you take advice from us but you do not seem to utilize any information given to you.
You have been advised repeatedly to use NC. but you keep finding ways to  break it. You won't see the benefits of NC in few days. It takes weeks and months. I am not talking about getting someone back benefit. I am talking about the self growth benefit, clearing the thoughts benefit, reduction in thoughts about them benefit. People come back only after they see us improved.
We have to delete their numbers in order to prevent ourselves from contacting them.
Sitting and watching show on TV on how to get fit doesn't help you get fit. You have to implement the instructions given on the show. Taking advices from us on how to get her back won't bring her back. You have to DO and IMPLEMENT the advises.

I think you have some anxiety issue. You really should  see a psychiatrist.

Thank you... can I still get her back despite saying those things...?


And Lanie, thank you so much. I completely agree, guys. Thanks.