feyynita wrote:

Hi. I'm newbie here. Been reading and following some of the posts here for a couple of months and even bought lanie's books and mp3.
It's so good to be able to join this forum.
And sorry the 1st time i join in i come up with a problem.
I broke up with my man 6 months ago. We have long distance relationship and it became unbearable for him. I've been very patient practicing lanie's techniques and enjoying my life. Even in this such a dilemmatic days i actually went out of town with some friends to have fun and really enjoyed the day out.
I found it yesterday that he broke up with his gf.
He seemed depressed and all. I was with him for 4 years.
We met when his wife left him for another man. He was suicidal and i manage to accompanied him 24 hours a day to make sure he would not hurt himself.
Now...i'm so worried thay he would hurt himself again. He still on prozac so it really scares me. He is pretty much capable of hirting himself. I haven't contact him for months. I want to have no contact with him until the day he decided to choose to return to me.
But i don't know whether i should keep doing it now.
I still don't feel like texting or call him.
Am i cruel? I want to help him. I love and care about him. But i want him find me first, contact me first.
Not out of ego, but i think i deserve it after 4 yes if being faithful to him and having him left me for another woman.
Am i wrong?
What should i do?
I'm so confuse

Hi feyynita,
I am sorry for what you are going through, it must be hard to knowing he is hurting and not being there for him, but I do believe the best way to contact him right now is through PW. I would see the end of his relationship as a step forward towards you. He will still need to do some healing before he is ready to come back to you but you can help with this by visualizing him telling you he is feeling better, that he is happy and you can send him love and positive thoughts. This will be more beneficial for you both then reaching out via text or e-mail. You are doing so well, keep having fun, focus on yourself and know 100% that he is on his way back to you!