collie wrote:

Jag123 wrote:

Collie

"I didn't send too much that could count as harassment" - that made me laugh my head off!

Thank you so much for the PDF that you sent me - that paragraph in particular (in your post) really resonated when I read it this morning.  It was like a god send because I really was feeling so so stuck yesterday.  I'll be honest, I sat in tears of pure frustration and pain.  I think it was a good thing because I needed to feel it, and cry out the resistance.  I've woken up this morning feeling so much better, and your link confirmed everything I concluded before I went to sleep which was "stop pushing against the situation and allow" .  Your post reminded me how, and the feeling stuck part was all part of the process.  I am so glad that I took no action during last night's downtime (I was so close to texting him) especially as I feel so different now.  Now, I'm excited and clear again.

Thank you so much again for your support xx

I am so happy that it helped. Well done for not texting him. You will see...he will definitely be in touch. This forum is amazing..everyone is supportive and wants to genuinely help.

It really is amazing... definitely talked me off the brink last night

Hello all and Happy New Year!

I wanted to come back and post that I have been unblocked.  I've been lurking occasionally on this board, but felt posting at that time, was keeping me in that space of wanting.  The text came out of the blue yesterday with a Happy New Year message. I also received a very strange message from his "girlfriend" to say they were not together and that he had been saying awful things about me to her when they were and to "beware".  That made me laugh and gave even further confirmation of sour grapes on her part and what I always knew - that he made a terrible mistake.  

Although it is the time of year for such messages, we hadn't spoken in two months , and made a final break 4 months ago.  The  last texts exchanged were absolutely awful.   I  really couldn't see a way back.  In terms of PW and BWD I had been doing them sporadically and just before I received both messages, I had a lovely BWD session and went off to a NYE party with a sense of knowing. Not necessarily that I would receive contact, but that all was well.  That feeling of knowing is priceless and I do need to learn to trust that more.

So now I am in very early days, I responded to the message in the same cursory fashion but will be upping the ante on BWD because it's bloody working!!!!

Hooray!!!!

 

Thanks Oasiscalm.  If it can work in my situation, it can definitely work in anyones'.  When I found out he was with someone else, it nearly broke me but I kept going.  It really does work!!!!!