Yes he is.. but for me, the feeling/chemistry is not as strong as I had with my POI. So basically, everything around it/our relationship is better, I could not wish for anything more... on the outside. It's the inside that's confused. My heart still desires my POI, while my brain wants my new bf

Marz wrote:

lalalovely wrote:

Yes he is.. but for me, the feeling/chemistry is not as strong as I had with my POI. So basically, everything around it/our relationship is better, I could not wish for anything more... on the outside. It's the inside that's confused. My heart still desires my POI, while my brain wants my new bf

Oh sweetheart. I feel for you. But you can't lie to your heart.
This is a sticky situation. If you want your POI (what does that stand for btw?) I say go for it, do the technique, release your resistance (it's your worry and angst that's causing the texts messages to end plus it can also be the fact that you already have a man and he just doesn't want to waste his time or get close with no possibility).
But, what about your bf? If you aren't in love with him, maybe he deserves to know that?

POI = person of interest ;)
Well the thing is I do love my bf, I also miss him when he is not around. That just makes it more confusing.. I know love is an energy which is so big that you could love more than just 1 person. but still.. I just hate the fact that the connection with my POI is still as strong as it was when we were together (I did CTC soooo many times, it makes me feel better for a while but I still have the strong believe that we will be together anyway in the end). I am not really worried that the texting would stop, I am upbeat and know in my heart he is going to respons but when they do suddenly stop I get frustrated.. My POI also has a new gf, very soon after our break up.. I still have no clear answers on how that happend (if it already started before we were done), but also don't want those answers anymore because the past is in the past. However, when they were together for like 6 months or something and he still would text me how beautiful I am,how he dreamt that he was still in a relationship with me (and didn't thought it was a bad dream..). A few weeks after he even drunk dialed me when he was abroad (and still had a relationship with her..).

so I guess I am just confused.. I know in my heart I still desire him, my friends say that's just because he is my first real love and that feeling will go away eventually. But I know he is not my first real love.. just my first long term relationship where I had the feeling that we had a really special bond ( I also had that kind of bond with his grandma, I just can't put it into words how it feels like. It's like so close, I never experienced that before..). Even though I am happy with my life now and also have great love for my current bf. I wish I had the same 'special bond' (instead of just 'love bond') feeling with him as well.. I do feel guilty of the love that I still feel for my POI. (I think this is also where my resistance part lies...). I am manifesting things like crazy. Just not him. I do know that there are no limits to the LOA. That I could manifest him back while still begin together with my current bf, and then let my heart/brain decide. 

So basically the thing I want to manifest is that feeling. I am in a perfect relationship now, but I miss that click that you "just know". So my manifestation could be split in two sides which I am undecided off:
- Manifest my man (POI) back, have a better relationship than ever (because we both grew in life) and still have that special connection
- Manifest that 'special connection' with my current bf. Because he is just perfect for me. I love him, he makes me smile everyday but I just miss that feeling that you just know eachother on a deeper lever kind of thing. Two minds being the same. Speaking without words.

Sorry for being so confusing, it's hard to write down your feelings and frustrations if you don't get them yourself 

 

I understand the connection you describe. Its the same connection I share and I think most of us girls here share with the men we are loving on during the technique.
I was also in a situation in the past where I did love 2 men and I didn't want to hurt either. Actually I still love them both, but I've since then figured out which is the love of my life
Yea it's confusing but life's confusing! I'm 36 and I still don't know shit 😆
Don't get frustrated when he doesn't text back. I forgot to mention that's a guy thing, they don't wrap up text convos like we do or say "k bye" (unless they're a beta male which I doubt he is). My sweetheart does that and I'll text him like "wtf you wanna let me know you're done with the convo?" and he'll go "lol sry" 😂😂😂 so dumb.
If you have a great guy that you love - it wouldn't be so bad to try to build that passion with him. But at the same time I try to imagine moving forward from this guy and it's just not a possibility - and I've tried - and I've driven him mad and he's driven me mad - but the love is still so incredibly strong. I imagine that this is your case with the POI (thanks for that).
What are you leaning towards?

Lalalovely,
Be patient and loving with yourself! I think in the end you will know exactly what to do.  Don't stress yourself. For now enjoy your boyfriend who makes you feel awesome.

✌️️&❤️