well I'm trying ... it's just I don't know ... I would love to get some kind of sign that I'm on the right track lol ... It's kinda frustrating that I'm after all this work still alone in my bed at night... the last few days I'm thinking more about our past together and don't understand why everything is so different now.. Yesterday I said to him that it would be nice to have someone next to me at night like my character in the game does (in the game his character slept next to me and it looked really cute .. he even made a picture of it and sent it to me in whatsapp) but he only answered with two smileys ... You know why does he play with his character cuddling with me in bed and sending me kisses if that's not what he wants to do in real life? A few days ago I sent him a photo of my fluffy bed and he said 'awwww I'll try that soon' and now so different ... I don't get it -.-

Sam wrote:

It's different only because you keeping putting your attention on how different it is. It's the law of attraction working. You can only ever get back what you first put out. So if you focus on his negative behavior, how can you get anything else?

But the truth is that it doesn't matter why it's happening. By trying to figure out why and focusing on why, you're still keeping the situation you don't want active. You just have to work on where you keep your focus. That's all. If you'd focus on all the lovely things he does, you'd get more of that. So really, it just comes down to making a choice of what you pay attention to, and what you ignore. By focusing on what's he's doing wrong, you're ignoring all the wonderful things he does do.

Just make the better choice. 😊

You're right .. guess I just have to be patient and have to except that it's a process. In the past I always marked the nice messages he sent me with a star that I don't forget it maybe I should do that again to be able to focus on that.

Thanks so much Sam!