Thanks oasis for your story! You're amazing!
May I've ask you if your guy committed to you since that time?

For me it was never the problem to get him back I always knew he can't be long without me and need me in his life. But it's a up and down atm and I really wish someone could help me to get out of that and keep a positive committed relationship .

Oasiscalm wrote:

As everyone here I got into LOA to attract my guy back. Actually I stumbled across LOA because I was trying to find ways to control the continual negative self talk I was practicing at the time of the break up and I also knew that much of the cause of our break up was due to my lack of self confidence and expectation of a failed relationship. So I decided that for future relationships I needed to get my mindset right and through the blessings of Google I fell into LOA.

It has been such an eye opener for me and the bonus was that I did attract my guy back. So in that vein I thought I would share with you the first forum post I made on Veronica's board when I had got into the understanding of what the correct mindset and discipline can offer you.

" I thought I would share my story of attracting back my love, hopefully to give you some insights into the lessons I have learnt and to reinforce within you all the power that you have. Also in writing out this out, I hope to remind myself of my own strength and growth over the last few months.

The most powerful insight I have learnt on my journey is that that whilst the journey will start with trying to attract back your love, the real journey continues and ends with attracting back a stronger and more powerful self.

I will try to make my story as brief as possible. My love and I broke up last year, we had no contact for approx four months and during that time I rediscovered LOA, I emmersed myself in every resource I could find. I made my intention that I wanted him back and practiced with all the tools and kept the faith. Finally out of the blue he reappeared, remorseful and eager to reconnect.

The reconciliation whilst great, I still had a lack of faith in his commitment and allowed my own fears and anxiety to surface and created a drama situation which lead to him distancing himself from me again. 

What I learnt was that I had managed to remove the resistance in my belief that I could attract him back, but I really hadn't thought past having him back. I hadn't addressed my own relationship fears and really explored my own limiting beliefs.

In the past month I have spent hours going inside myself and relearnt my approach to relationships and pulled out my core and limiting beliefs. It is true that you attract what you are.

My advice would be -

Be specific - I wrote a lengthy intention letter stating how I wanted my relationship to be

Believe - believe you can have what you want, believe you are worthy of it, really know and believe it is yours and will have it without reservation.

Get the feeling and live in the end - reach for and hold on to the feeling of having your love back. Whether you use visualisations or RS do it with feeling, don't do it on autopilot and expect results. You need to immerse yourself in the feeling of having your love. And don't think about or try to imaging how it's going to happen, just live in the end.

Find yourself - I think often when discussing LOA techniques there isn't enjoy attention given to the importance of learning yourself. Really study yourself, your limiting beliefs and seek to find ways to manage your limiting beliefs and make yourself a stronger more empowered person. I believe when you show up to your new attracted person you need to show up as a happy, confident and peaceful person. And these qualities really need to be built on a strong foundation. I am still using EFT and meditations to release old beliefs.

Get on with life because it will come when u aren't waiting - don't look for him/her because he won't come. Turn your back and live your life. Distract yourself and keep yourself as busy as possible until you get your life and headspace back and when life feels normal again that's when he/she will return.

Whilst I not at the finish line, I can say with all honest that this journey has taught me so much about myself and about how life is mine for the taking and my higher power is the first and most important thing I need to protect.

I hope you all will see that this quest to get back your love should be the most empowering exercise you will undertake because done the right way, not alone will you attract the relationship you want, but you will attract back the best version of yourself there is and that is most valuable outcome."

 
Thanks for sharing with us! Lots of wonderful information!☺️