Marz wrote:

collie wrote:

Sushi - what is a sea sponge? Never heard of it.
As for mixed signals..thought about it and it won't send mixed signals as I have no feelings or strong desires for the other guy. I know exactly who I want and I am not confused about that at all.

I also never had sex with someone that I wasn't in a relationship with as I also get attached quickly but   after going nun for 5 years  it is starting to really bother me. I am human. I have urges. The guy I was thinking about is someone that I am friends with and have known for a long time. I find him attractive but we aren't compatible and I have no feelings for him. He isn't a serious guy when it comes to relationships so he won't get hurt or anything. He probably won't agree to it if he thinks I want a relationship with him.
 

Yea, not many guys would say no to no strings attached sex. But if you've gone this long without sex, this is something you may want to think through. When a woman sleeps with a man, her body releases oxytocin meaning you may develop feelings of attachment although this was not your intention.
Think about it. You'll make the right decision.
 

I am still not sure I will go through with this. A few months ago I also thought about it but then changed my mind.

Thanks for the all the replies. I won't be sending mixed signals if it will happen as I am sure 100% that I want my guy..have known for 4 years. He is the only guy that I truly desire.

Just an FYI to the group since there are quite a few people viewing. Lanie doesn't advocate for casual sex. I believe this should be stated since it's her forum.

Amazonne wrote:

Marz wrote:

Just an FYI to the group since there are quite a few people viewing. Lanie doesn't advocate for casual sex. I believe this should be stated since it's her forum.

Hello, I sense you feel very strongly about what you are making a moral issue. I don't think that there are things that women "shouldn't" do that men can do, if they want to. You are completely entitled to living your life according to your rules, but some women want casual sex sometimes. And it doesn't end in depression and regret. I truly believe women can have a casual encounter and not be some sort of victim for it. We are all here to give advice, but we can't push our morals onto other people. If she's made her choice to do it, and it makes her happy, I don't see why we need to guilt her for her choices. If she gets hurt for whatever reason, she'll bounce back just fine and still get her man in the end. I've had men catch feelings for me after sex even though I didn't want anything serious, we're just conditioned to believe it's exclusively the other way round. I think part of being empowered as a woman is being in charge of your own sexuality. I don't expect you to agree with my views, and I am okay with that, but we're all here to encourage and uplift each other. 

As I previously stated. As this being Lanie's forum - created by Lanie - inspired by her books I feel it necessarily to state that she does not believe in partaking in casual sex - this comes directly from her book Pussy Power (see Chapter 6, Paragraph 6 - Don't make the mistake of having sex too soon. Certainly don't make the mistake of having sex without being in a monogamous relationship and Chapter 6, Paragraph 10 - If you want a man to consider you as something as valuable, unique, special and possibly permanent, then you need to hold your legs together).
As a woman who has mastered the technique, manifested back her ex and created an amazing lifestyle for herself, I would think that there are women who would be interested in her philosophies so that they may attract equal or greater successes.
I stated my rightful truthful opinions the same way you did. And because you (not the OP) are bothered by my opinions you call it guilt? That's what I've been doing here from the conception of this forum and I'm not going to change that.
In my opinion, it's far from uplifting to encourage a woman who's practiced abstinence for 5 years to have sex with a man with no relationship or love involved. To boot, she is still very undecided yet you have not once told her to listen to her heart as I've repeatedly said to her - so who's imposing their morals (or lack thereof) on whom?
I'm not with the Amber Rose Slut Walk movement, I prefer Lanie's teachings. You can compete with men in the sex department as much as you'd like, but as long as I'm participating here, I will always advocate for no casual sex with men - so you may want to avoid my posts.

 

Last edited by Marz (11/15/2016 8:26 pm)

Amazonne wrote:

Marz wrote:

Just an FYI to the group since there are quite a few people viewing. Lanie doesn't advocate for casual sex. I believe this should be stated since it's her forum.

Hello, I sense you feel very strongly about what you are making a moral issue. I don't think that there are things that women "shouldn't" do that men can do, if they want to. You are completely entitled to living your life according to your rules, but some women want casual sex sometimes. And it doesn't end in depression and regret. I truly believe women can have a casual encounter and not be some sort of victim for it. We are all here to give advice, but we can't push our morals onto other people. If she's made her choice to do it, and it makes her happy, I don't see why we need to guilt her for her choices. If she gets hurt for whatever reason, she'll bounce back just fine and still get her man in the end. I've had men catch feelings for me after sex even though I didn't want anything serious, we're just conditioned to believe it's exclusively the other way round. I think part of being empowered as a woman is being in charge of your own sexuality. I don't expect you to agree with my views, and I am okay with that, but we're all here to encourage and uplift each other. 

Totally agree with you, Amazone. I've had men that I only ever intended to be one night stands stick to me like glue afterwards. I had 9 different men ask me to marry them by the time I was 36. Dabbling in casual sex has never stood in the way of getting men to commit to me. Conversely, if you follow those sort of rules, you end up with the kind of man that believes in those sort of rules. I am not interested in men who have a different set of rules for men & women in regards to sex. If he's the kind of guy that thinks poorly of women who have sex too soon, he's not the guy for me.