I know it's hard but the way you write sounds like you are convinced of these negative things. I posted this in another thread you commented on, hope it helps:

I don't focus too much on free will, I think when you want something and try to feel good about it without fear or negativity, things align and make it happen. I've broken up with someone convinced at the moment that I wanted nothing to do with them and a few months later missed them like crazy and realized I loved them. It's been done to me as well. The longer you focus on his current way of thinking (that he doesn't want to be with you), the longer it'll be your reality. There's a reason so many people regret losing someone once the other person backs off and moves on.

Last edited by dreamb (1/06/2017 4:20 pm)

I just responded in the other thread. 

dreamb wrote:

I know it's hard but the way you write sounds like you are convinced of these negative things. I posted this in another thread you commented on, hope it helps:

I don't focus too much on free will, I think when you want something and try to feel good about it without fear or negativity, things align and make it happen. I've broken up with someone convinced at the moment that I wanted nothing to do with them and a few months later missed them like crazy and realized I loved them. It's been done to me as well. The longer you focus on his current way of thinking (that he doesn't want to be with you), the longer it'll be your reality. There's a reason so many people regret losing someone once the other person backs off and moves on.

He has actually said those same exact words to me too about a month ago. 

emmiline wrote:

wanderlusting wrote:

… What I don't understand is why when we do hung out and talk, does he do things that a boyfriend would do but when I bring up the topic of having a relationship, he gets mad at me. I want to just go with the flow but at the same time, I want to make sure that I am not being played for a fool either. Having me but keeping his options open and then when he wants a relationship, I am the fall back girl. He will be 27 in a couple of weeks and I will be 30 this year. 

 
Because he wants to have his cake and eat it too sweetie. Guys will always push the envelope to see how far they can take it. I responded to you on the Inception thread, i hope it answers your question

All you need to focus on is the outcome. Everything will fall into place at the right time.
But don't pay what he says any mind because it doesn't matter what he says - people can change and after awhile of doing PW how the others said, he will be back. You just need to not give up. But if you continue entertaining negativity, only negative things will happen.

Go no contact and don't bring relationships up to him or it'll drive him away. Men don't like when women try to change them, eapwcially good women. Ignore him and show him that you're the best damn thing there is. BECAUSE YOU ARE!!!! You can do this!!!!! Eyes on the prize!!

Last edited by Blue (1/06/2017 5:43 pm)

wanderlusting wrote:

Okay, so I know that we went back and forth yesterday as I was getting my situation out in the forum for advice. So last night, I was feeling really negative so I decided to drive to the gym and try and work out my frustrations. As I had previously mentioned, I had went into NC and hadn't heard from him, until I was done with the gym last night and was heading home. I was feeling in such a great mood and super happy until I got a plethora of mean, nasty, and down right cruel text messages from him. Everything from name calling to mocking me having a mental illness (PTSD), saying that I had a "damaged mind" and such. I was blown away by everything. Hours before I had gone to the gym, I had read on a post here to detach and to even do a cord cutting meditation, which I ended up doing and then boom, last night happened. I am definitely backing away for the time being. 

Blue wrote:

All you need to focus on is the outcome. Everything will fall into place at the right time.
But don't pay what he says any mind because it doesn't matter what he says - people can change and after awhile of doing PW how the others said, he will be back. You just need to not give up. But if you continue entertaining negativity, only negative things will happen.

Go no contact and don't bring relationships up to him or it'll drive him away. Men don't like when women try to change them, eapwcially good women. Ignore him and show him that you're the best damn thing there is. BECAUSE YOU ARE!!!! You can do this!!!!! Eyes on the prize!!

 

 
There is a button on your phone you can press called BLOCK.

Why are you sitting there allowing his toxicity in your life.