My bpd poi is the most compassionate and loving girl I have ever met.
Her having bpd could not make me care about her less.
Everybody say "run fast. Run far". But I don't believe they are evil people. They just have issues. We all do. And we can all learn to deal with it.

Sushi wrote:

Only about a quarter of BPD cases are the way you describe, sweet and vulnerable. In the book I suggested this type would fall under the Waif subtype. And yes, we all have issues, but some more than others. My BPD ex had the full blown psychotic features.

Of course, some people have more issues than others, but that does not make them any less human. We tend to forget that words are very powerful and can really impact people. That is why empathy is so important..you know what I mean? Just try and imagine from a person with BPD's point of view, coming onto this thread and reading people saying "run" or "they are manipulators", etc. It is hurtful no matter who we are talking about. No? Plus, some of us know that there are people with BPD on this forum already and the fact that someone on this thread even spoke about her BPD, yet there is still hurtful words being thrown around. We should be taking that into consideration. 

There is just such a stigma surrounding this disorder. The good news is that there is hope for everyone (even those with BPD) and we create our realities right? We can send good healing vibes to the people we care about <3

No, he wasn't a narcissist at all. Narcissists tend to be know it alls and brag a lot about whatever particular subject is their "thing". He was nothing like that. He was terribly insecure, paranoid and spiteful. Narcissism doesn't include psychosis or self harm in the diagnostic criteria, both of which were present with him. Narcissists are also unlikely to attempt suicide, which he had several times. Suicidal ideation is also a diagnostic criteria for bpd. While some narcissists can be cruel, they do tend to be more emotionally stable than those with BPD many of whom can be just as cruel as any narcissist or sociopath. The difference is that the BPD will usually show intermittent empathy, sociopaths have little empathy at all, ever, and narcissists only have empathy when it aligns with their purposes or it's someone that they as either an extension of themselves (like their children for example) or see themselves in (one of their idols for example).

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