Blue wrote:

You're right, Oasis. Makes total sense, honestly.

I very well have been slipping up and getting down when there's 100% no reason to be because I am the one in control. You're so right. We shouldn't attribute it to stubbornness, but that they are busy or the universe is patching things behind the scenes to make them the person we need them to be as well as becoming the person we need to be for them.

Have a read of these links from the goldmine thread

CHANGING THEIR BEHAVIOURS

Reprogramming Reality Steve Pavlina Posted by BettyBlue
Here's an interesting blog post by Steve Pavlina (who used to have a great loa forum) where he talks about changing our reality through the use of our imagination. Particularly interesting is "Experiment 3 - Reprogramming My Wife" where he manages to change his wife's behaviour, simply by imagining her that way:
http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2006/05/reprogramming-reality/

How to Shift Your Reality by Shifting Yourself
It is said that we cannot change others, but what if we really could?
http://zazenlife.com/2015/04/17/how-to-shift-your-reality-by-shifting-yourself/
Last edited by Oasiscalm (9/18/2016 12:09 pm)

Really needed this. Thank you 

Oasiscalm wrote:

Blue wrote:

Oasiscalm wrote:

Believe me when I say their stubborness is not a factor.

You aren't battling their stubborness or other issues. They don't matter. All that matters is you. If you want to see obstacles then that's what you will be faced with.

If you want to sit affirming, that he is sitting there missing me but is too stubborn to reach out , then guess what he will sit there staring at the phone missing you but not reaching out.

Don't give up your power to his whime. When you get your resolve and vibration right it will all fall into place.

This is all about you, not him, her or them. If there is one thing I have learnt on my LOA journey is that the universe responds to you in the exact way you present yourself to it. Act wish washy and u will get wishy washy results.

Oasis, I definitely think stubbornness is a factor. If not, why did it take Lanie's now-fiancé so reach out for so long? She was out living her life and she was happy, yet it took him over a year to reach out. Why do you think the reason for that was?

I genuinely believe you can affirm to yourself that they are coming back (because they are, no doubt) and that they miss you. But no matter how high your vibration is and how happy/positive you are - I definitely still believe that their personality can play a factor.

But hey, that's just me - I'm still learning all about LOA and re-reading the books I have so maybe in a few days I'll relate back to what you were saying. As well as when I am done reading Lanie's new book this weekend

The more LOA you will read the more you will learn that you are the one in control.

I can't comment on Lanie's journey, I don't know what was in Lanie's subconscious. There are many ways to look at any story and give it whatever tone you like. Suppose the year Lanie lived her life to the fullest was what she needed. Could it be that in that year she gained more for herself than she would have if he had returned a day after she first PW'd him. Could it be what she had set her intention to have with him required wounds to be heal and old energy to be shifted. But as I said everyone's story is different. I'm flipping the story to show that the conclusion of Lanie's story doesn't have to be "oh he was so stubborn it took a year for him to come back". Also read the story - consider Lanie herself stated she didn't do PW every single day and had periods where she didn't do it. Could the story had been different if she was doing it everyday. (Sorry Lanie to dissect your story 😂 )

I just know when you turn you attention away from them and focus on you, your life will open up and u will start to receive all you need to get what you want and need.

If you are sat there saying he isn't contacting me because he is stubborn - you are giving him that feature. You are introducing another obstacle to overcome. It is about the energy around the story you are telling.

For example you send him a message and he doesn't reply. Energy one - is to start saying "oh he is so stubborn he's not replying". Energy Two - he hasn't replied because he is busy.

Attributing stubborness etc to the person you are trying to attracting is tiresome. You are reinforcing within yourself it is going to be an uphill battle.

Forget why he isn't contacting you. All you need to affirm to yourself is that he is mine and through whatever event you and him will be together as you wish. In the meantime you have a glourious life which you will live to the fullest knowing it's coming at any time soon.

I truly love this..thank you thank you thank you!!

So, in this sense it is unnecessary to visualise him missing us at home coz then he will just continue missing us? Just focus on the end? i.e. together in a loving relationship?

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Indigo wrote:

  
 
From now on, if I think my guy is being stubborn, I'm going to picture him with a little rain cloud over his head.
That's just on the verge of bursting.
  
  
 

Since I re-read the book the other night, when my guy pops into my mind, I will sometime picture him with a big, heavy raincloud over his head! It makes me smile and lifts my mood every time.

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