Anti-Social wrote:

Just wondering if theres a reason behind having no contact with your target. I already don't have much contact with him as he's very rarely on social media and I only see him when his band plays shows 1-3 times a month, every few months. By having no contact does that also mean not going to his gigs? (i already have a ticket for his next one) his band will be on tour for a few months after that so there already will be no face-to-face contact but I know ill be tempted to contact him via social media. I have been using "Cut The Cord" meditation and it has been working so far with feeling needy and knowing he'll come to me sooner or later.
What are your thoughts?

**Update** ive just bought Lanie's new book and read the 'no contact' chapter however my target is not an ex.

  
  
No contact is used for specific reasons.  If he's not
an ex, why do you feel the need to be in NC mode?
You probably need to read Lanie's Book 3, PP, also.
There's a difference between NC and not chasing,
throwing yourself at him, and acting desperate.  
Not saying you're doing that, but those actions
are definite no-nos.

  
  

 

NC is done for many reasons. People do to make the person miss you, think of you and it gives a cooling period to both the people.
BUT, the primary reason for NC is self growth. You need a grip over your emotions, over yourself, you need a clarity, you need to give the person the necessary space and you yourself need that space. Many times not being in NC can hinder your growth. It can annoy the person. You are likely to just end up overanalysing the person's behaviour after the break up and hurt yourself. The person might think you are just there available and hence might keep you on the back burner, string you along, throw the breadcrumbs and all this will fuck your mind. I am not saying they will do all this on purpose. It's a break up, it affects them as well.  And there are many other reasons. 

Anti-Social wrote:

Thanks for replying. I guess im overly paranoid about coming across as desperate or throwing myself at him. I thought if I go NC it might help. I do own PP however ive only read it once. I'll make sure to read it again today!
  

  
  
The reason for NC after a break-up is that it leaves him to wonder whether you are keeping
company with other men, living it up in Vegas, or thinking about him at all.  You never want
the man to think (new or ex) that you are sitting around waiting for his call, daydreaming
about having his babies, hoping for a booty call, none of that.  Do not constantly call, text,
hang around, or otherwise make yourself available as all of that gives him the upper-hand
and he will just take you for granted.  And men don't like buggy clingy women anyway.

For a new guy, just be cool, be yourself.  Try to look nice, it gives you an air of confidence.  
Keep your nails, hair and wardrobe together as men notice those small details.  When he
looks at you it's fine to make eye contact along with a nice smile to let him know you might
be interested.  Always have a couple of topics in mind to make small talk in case you two
conversate.  Most importantly do not give him VJJ or any kind of J until the two of you
have established an emotional bond.  All of that in conjunction with PW, and you can
have any man you want.
  
  
 

Aphrodite and Indigo I needed to hear those reasons because at times I am a damn mess. I will refer back to these posts to remind myself. Thanks

All you need to know is that its working ! 

Lanie has said that there is no need to contact him, because whatever you send to him is working even better than if you sent him a text or email that really is not as powerful. 

Its hard to do, but I prefer to stay no contact personally.