I hope you learned from the situation. Lanie told you to stop and you should've, so now you know what to do next time.

Also, he told you his reasons of why he can't commit - which have nothing to do with you and everything to do with him and wanting to work elsewhere. It has nothing to do with him not wanting to fight for you - he has his own life too. So you want him to stop everything he's doing and sacrifice his own happiness to be with you? That's the kind of person you want? Someone who gives up on their own dreams for you? You should support him, not pressure him into doing what he's told you numerous times he's not ready for.

If you want him, keep doing the techniques but you have to realise this may not be the best time for you two to be together and that things very well may fall into place in the future.

Blue wrote:

I hope you learned from the situation. Lanie told you to stop and you should've, so now you know what to do next time.

Also, he told you his reasons of why he can't commit - which have nothing to do with you and everything to do with him and wanting to work elsewhere. It has nothing to do with him not wanting to fight for you - he has his own life too. So you want him to stop everything he's doing and sacrifice his own happiness to be with you? That's the kind of person you want? Someone who gives up on their own dreams for you? You should support him, not pressure him into doing what he's told you numerous times he's not ready for.

If you want him, keep doing the techniques but you have to realise this may not be the best time for you two to be together and that things very well may fall into place in the future.

​Thank you Blue, tough but a perspective I need to look at and understand his position. Just want to point out that he was always perusing me in these 6 months, I would never contact him, he would always reach out to me wanting to see me. Two weeks ago he messaged me 4 nights in a row to see me and I turned him down each night explaining I was busy and couldn't see him, a week later he was asking to see me again.. and so it goes.. so I'm just hurt by him pulling me back constantly when he knows I love him and he is not able to give me more. It just confuses me as he clearly can't let me go but cant give me more at the same time. So I totally get I need to put my big girl pants on and cut it off because he clearly wants to keep going along as we are until 'maybe' he goes overseas. I would never want to hold him back from his dreams, just wish he could include me in them like a true partnership, I would go with him if he asked. I guess that's were I know I need to let go and focus on my own dreams, just hurts thinking I am loosing him from my life completely..
 

Blue wrote:

You need to just cut off contact and not initiate anything. Stop sleeping with him or doing any of that. He needs to chase you. But you need to understand that him giving up on what he wants just for you will make you both unhappy in the long run and will cause him to one day hate you because he will think "I could've done all of this and that but didn't because I wanted you to be happy."

Support him, visualise and do the meditations - focus on the end result and have faith. In the meantime, you're at a low point and you need to stop talking to him until you are in a right frame of mind.

​Okay, I hear you and I know this to be the right path.. as I said I never initiate contact he always reaches out to me to catch up. I have said I cannot continue like this and I need to move on and so if he reaches out do I just not respond or repeat my same message? this is why I've found it so hard because I've tried to move on.. then he contacts me and I think Oh the techniques are working and he's come back.. but then it still doesn't progress
 

Blissful wrote:

Blue wrote:

You need to just cut off contact and not initiate anything. Stop sleeping with him or doing any of that. He needs to chase you. But you need to understand that him giving up on what he wants just for you will make you both unhappy in the long run and will cause him to one day hate you because he will think "I could've done all of this and that but didn't because I wanted you to be happy."

Support him, visualise and do the meditations - focus on the end result and have faith. In the meantime, you're at a low point and you need to stop talking to him until you are in a right frame of mind.

​Okay, I hear you and I know this to be the right path.. as I said I never initiate contact he always reaches out to me to catch up. I have said I cannot continue like this and I need to move on and so if he reaches out do I just not respond or repeat my same message? this is why I've found it so hard because I've tried to move on.. then he contacts me and I think Oh the techniques are working and he's come back.. but then it still doesn't progress
 

Tell him you're not interested in keeping the whole friends with benefits situation going on and if he doesn't respect it then don't reply.

Bliss, I don't know what your spiritual beliefs are but I am a true believer in angels - I recently read two books about angels and manifesting with them and using LOA. The books truly helped me and helped me completely let go and accept everything that is happening and built so much trust in me. If you would like I can post the titles here and you can read them if you would like.